Post # 1
So, my sister has a friend from high school. She’s been so supportive to my sister, wonderful to my family, yadda yadda. I really do like her. I just got a mesage from Facebook on her, letting me know that she knows how hard TTC can be, and that if I ever want to talk to her about the difficulty I’m having, she’s totally open to that.
The problem? I NEVER TOLD HER ANYTHING ABOUT US TTC. My mother did. I just called up my mom and lost it on her- I can’t believe that she would ever think that discussing such a personal thing with someone I’m not even friends with, especially without my consent! I can see where she would think I would want someone to talk to, but c’mon- I have my own friends, and it is NOT her decision on who knows about this. My mom apologized, but I’m still furious.
Sorry. Rant over.
Post # 3
Oh, my dad says things all the time that he doesn’t think about before saying them. I just learned to blow it off or if it really bothers me to call my mom and have her talk to him. He has gotten alot better the last few years, but I think this may be a problem I will deal with the rest of his life.
Post # 4
im sorry something so personal was discussed without your permission… vent away and hoping things go better for you sooner than later
Post # 5
Hopefully your mom got the message before she communicated it to someone less supportive! It’s totally understandable to be frustrated with her sharing something so personal. On a separate note, I’ll cross my fingers for you that it happens for you soon!
Post # 6
That really stinks! i’d be so upset too if someone in my family was talking to other people about really personal things.
Post # 7
I don’t like it when my personal business gets aired either, and I’m sorry that this happened to you.
Sometimes people just say things without thinking that it might offend, or without thinking that maybe it was a piece of information that wasn’t meant to be shared. I’m sure your Mom feels awful about it, and it won’t happen again.
Post # 8
Maybe your sister’s friend thought that you guys were closer & that your mom would have only told her because you didn’t mind if she was in the know? Idk.. people can be a bit clueless at times.
Pretty unreal that your mom would think that something so personal would be okay to bring up in conversation with anyone other than you/your partner. :/
Post # 9
Ugh NOT ok!!! This is why I dont plan to tell anyone when we are TTC!
Post # 10
Yea not cool on your mom’s part. Glad you talked to her and she apologized and realized she was wrong.
Also, in the future, I would make it very clear to her when you are telling her something confidentially.
Post # 11
I would be so angry too! It’s so frustrating to feel like you need to specifically tell people, “don’t discuss this with anyone else,” when you assume they should already know it’s not appropriate to talk about. I have seriously been thinking about getting rid of my facebook because I’m worried that if I tell some close friends and family that I am pregnant, someone will somehow end up bringing it up on my wall, and then the cat would be out of the bag to all of my coworkers.
Post # 12
I would be so pissed! and then why would she put it on FB? ugh
Post # 13
I can totally see my mom doing this. I’m sorry for the frustration. Unfortunately, if she is like my mom, you have to specify who she can tell, bc she talks about her family a lot I’m guessing…
Post # 14
My mom would totally do this. She is a gossiper and would tell everyone under the sun that her daughter was working on giving her a grandbaby. Thats why we dont plan to tell anyone until after Im pregnant.