Post # 16
BookishBee : But neither should someone be squished in with others against their wishes because someone else wants to save a few dollars. So yes, I agree, I shouldn’t presume what your finances are, but neither should I insist you and your partner bunk in with us so I can get a cheaper deal when you’ve clearly stated you don’t want to do this.
Post # 17
Im sorry bee, they are being so inconsiderate. I would actually have said okay its a studio, so my partner and I are getting our own airbnb. I dont care if it costs them more money, they should have met the required agreements to start with. They deliberately picked a non refundable studio after the links you picked and booked it without your permission and they did this KNOWING that you would feel pressured to have to agree. I wouldnt have felt bad leaving the whole cost on them. And as for the rest of the trip, they need to get two bedrooms. I wouldnt even share a room with my Brother-In-Law and SIL let alone Brother-In-Law and a male friend.
Its your trip too and you have every right to be comfortable. Its not up to you to sacrifice comfort just so they can pay less.
Post # 18
Consider either booking a separate room for you and your boyfriend for the last 4 days, or offer to pay the difference between a one bedroom and a two bedroom. I would imagine the extra cost of doing either should be about the same.
I absolutely understand where you are coming from, and I would feel the same way if I was in your shoes. The only thing you know for certain here is that they don’t want to accommodate your request, so you need to take some more initiative.
Post # 19
veleniza : It sounds like this is a boy’s trip that you were invited along on. I don’t blame you for wanting separate bedrooms, but you can’t just say “I made it clear…”, it needs to be agreed upon. If 3 of the 4 want cheap and 1 of the 4 wants private, cheap wins. Since they said “fine” to separate rooms for the remaining days, ask them how much they can afford per night, find something you like that’s within their budget (don’t forget to factor in taxes, cleaning fee, and service charge), and book it. Done.
Post # 20
I would let them book whatever rooms they want and then book my own rooms. I would say sorry, I am not comfortable sharing a room with males who are not my Boyfriend or Best Friend. While you can’t force them to book where you want, they can’t force you to share a room. You might want to remind Boyfriend or Best Friend that your attitude will be lousy during the trip because you’ll be uncomfortable if you share a room with them. You all can meet up wherever and your plans should stay the same otherwise.
Post # 21
BookishBee : I just want to note that if this were a wedding issue, NO ONE would be saying that it’s okay to set someone else’s budget for them based on your perception of their finances.
That’s hardly relevant, OP isn’t forcing them to book anything they don’t want to. It’s totally acceptable for OP to not want to stay in a room with 3 other men, she can book a room for herself and her bf and the other two can book whatever room they like!
Post # 22
I would be irritated, too. This sort of thing is why I tend to avoid group trips.
Have you pointed out to your Boyfriend or Best Friend that sex will not be an option if you are sharing rooms?
Post # 23
Book your own place for you and your Boyfriend or Best Friend. Or book another place for all and offer to cover the cancellation fee + difference in price.
Post # 24
Thank y’all!! To adress a few questions, I’m 29 (like his brother and the friend) and my bf is 33, so I def feel too old for sharing, haha. Also, the price difference for each of us would just be around 10 dollars per night, so it’s really nothing. I don’t know why that friend is trying so hard to find the cheapest place possible.
I talked to my bf again and he says I should book the rooms for the rest of the stay, and I agree. I will suggest a place and if everyone agrees I’ll book it. I’m also ready to pay more in case someone complains, I really don’t care, I just want my privacy. Oh and I don’t think it’s a ‘boys trip’, even though I’m the only girl I never asked to be invited, plus we’re not going to a party place and my bf really isn’t the type of guy who ever goes on ‘boys trips’ (plus he doesn’t even know the friend of his brother).
So thanks again everyone! Good suggestions, and it’s nice to know that I’m not overreacting 🙂
Post # 25
I don’t mind sharing a room with a few guys if the situation calls for it, but this one totally doesn’t. If I were you, I would book my own room and leave the studio to the friends. Yeah it’s annoying it’s non refundable for them but they shouldn’t have lied to you and said they were booking the other place when they weren’t.
Also if it’s a studio, I’m guessing the sleeping arrangements for 4 people will be one double bed and a fold out couch. How is that going to be comfortable for anybody?
ETA: The two room place is an extra $10 each per night? Give me a break! I bet you anything those guys will blow $100 on beer at least during the trip. Book your own studio with a spa bath and treat yourself away from these crazy people!
Post # 26
BookishBee : but he had the opportunity to say the accommodations she picked were too expensive. He didn’t and instead booked something else that she clearly said she was not comfortable with. Also this is not a wedding. I don’t think the situations are close to being comparable.
Post # 27
veleniza : I would honestly be worried that his brother/ friends were creeps that wanted to watch you sleep/ change. Not to be rude but what guys out of college r gonna go out of their way to share a room with a women they barely know who is in a relationship with their friend/ family members.
Post # 28
Ugh yeah I gave in to a similar situation and I was so annoyed half the time. My Darling Husband and his family are super cheap sometimes and I am pretty frugal myself about certain things but this just wasn’t worth it. Don’t do it!! Book your own!
Post # 29
mrschris17 : I would honestly be worried that his brother/ friends were creeps that wanted to watch you sleep/ change.
Well that’s quite a leap.
Post # 30
whnlz : I’m just saying she doesn’t know them. Why do they wanna share a room with her so bad? Ten dollars doesn’t seem like a good reason.