So annoyed about room situation on our upcoming trip

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 61
8282 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

jannigirl :  my friends and I often share rented homes for vacations and we always accomodate everyone’s budget AND space needs. It sometimes takes more legwork to find a good place to rent, but if we have 4 families vacationing together than we find a 4-bedroom that fits everyone’s budget even if it isn’t as fancy/nice as one or two families would prefer. We prioritize cost and privacy so it’s not impossible to do or unreasonable to expect. 

Post # 62
7903 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

It doesn’t seem right for you to share a room with 3 guys, 2 of which you don’t even know. I also wondered if the dude who booked had some ulterior motive besides cost since the cost difference was negligible. I’m also surprised that your partner is ok with all of you sharing a room. I doubt there’s going to be any sex for him and you if you’re all sharing the room! 

If you’re really wanting to be part of this trip, I would book your own accommodations, and your partner can join you if he wants. 

Post # 63
7642 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

And this is why I don’t do shared vacations.

No way, absolutely no way, would I be ok sharing a studio with a total stranger, 29 year old male. The guy who booked a room against your wishes is in the wrong – you never go spending shared money unless all parties are ok with it. Bees who said “majority rules” are wrong – when it’s shared money, it’s got to be something everyone is happy with. (That is: consensus, not majority rule. And if you can’t reach consensus, you shouldn’t be vacationing together).

So I would book my own accommodation for those two nights. The guys can then argue over how they are going to split the bill 3 ways on the studio. And the guy who made the booking against your wishes should consider it a lesson learned.

Post # 64
119 posts
Blushing bee

I’m so surprised at how many people are calling you high maintenance and a prima donna.  

The friend is a cheapskate. But guys don’t care about those things. They just want to be “together” and seriously don’t care. And since you aren’t their girlfriend they don’t care if it makes you uncomfortable. You can bet they aren’t going to be spraying poopori in the toilet to be considerate of you. 

I would compromise. Stay the 2 nights and then the next one you get your own space. If it’s too pricey for them then they can stay in a hostile. 



Post # 65
140 posts
Blushing bee

jannigirl :  But they agreed to get separate rooms. She even sent them rooms she found in their price range and they said they agreed with it but booked something else. That’s the biggest problem. Why lie and say you are ok with something then sneak around and do something else.

Post # 66
174 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I would book my own place for those two nights, and not financially contribute to the studio, since you obviously didn’t agree to those accommodations. I would then let them know that if you don’t have a separate bedroom for the following 4 nights, you will book your own accommodations again as well. 

It is incredibly rude for them to not only dismiss your request without speaking to you first, but also to expect you or your boyfriend to pay for a portion of a room you aren’t comfortable staying in. 

Post # 67
85 posts
Worker bee

 I say stop being so nice. I would have booked a room for myself and boyfriend and told the others that they can book a separate room at the same place or go elsewhere that fit their budget. I’m sorry, but come on. Let’s be grown ups here. 

Post # 68
674 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

No way would I be okay sleeping in the same room with TWO other guys whom I’m not close with, especially since one of them is a complete stranger. Why would your boyfriend be comfortable with his own girlfriend sharing a room with two other guys?

Post # 69
210 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

I wouldn’t do it…the heavy snoring and sharing with 2 other guys? Not only no, but hell no. 

Post # 70
626 posts
Busy bee

jannigirl :  A grudge, really? The alternative is that she does something that makes her uncomfortable just to appease others, which is a recipe for unhappiness.

Again, they’re welcome to book wherever they want, at whatever price point they want. They are welcome to decide to stay in a cheaper area, in a tent, or even sleep in a car. They are also welcome to stay in a hostel with people who have agreed to share a bedroom. But OP has not agreed to share a bedroom, and it’s out of line for them to book it and expect her financial contribution without her consent.

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