SO ANNOYED! He is too NICE & women take it the wrong way!

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
937 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014


Well if some guy was telling me to keep in touch with a little wink icon I would take that as flirting.  WTF is that about???  9 times out of 10….more like 9.9 times out of 10….men know what they’re doing and then claim the “I was just being nice” act.

That being said – you need to tell him this attention from females is making you feel uncomfortable.  If he respects you he will take the proper steps to stop women from flirting with him in their tracks

Post # 5
937 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@BrideToBe14:  Ohhhhhhhhh.

Well then…..nothing you can do.   Just tell him you’re uncomfy with it and hopefully he shuts them down.  Many women don’t care if the signals are there or not or if a guy is married.  If she wants a guy she will create signals in her head.


Post # 7
3028 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@BrideToBe14:  Take it as a compliment and move on.  He is not cheating so these women can winky face at him all they want.  

Post # 9
651 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Yes it is annoying, but if you look at it a different way it’s cute and pretty hilarious. My husband is just like this – handsome, charming, devilighly cute and nice to everyone and their dog. When  he talks to you it’s like you are the whole world. It used to bother me when he talked to others like this until I realized his ability to give me attention and make me feel special was not influenced by his niceness and attention to others. I love how he is and I know if he changed, a large part of what attracts me to him would be gone too and that’s just not worth it. 

Embrace your fiance’s personality instead of fighting it and you will grow to appreciate his kindeness and attention to others. It means he genuinely cares for others and you shouldn’t want to change this. If he is handsome women will trhow themselves at him no matter what. It’s how you treat him that will keep him attached to you and not look to others to fill that role. 

Remember he chose you, and you will soon be joined visibly. 

Post # 10
1353 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

That message didn’t seem overly nice, it seemed normal to me. 

Post # 12
1099 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Hmm…I have beef with this. I hate in general when people say they are too nice so people take it the wrong way. There is a defnite difference between nice and flirty. I think blaming it on being nice is a cop out. Because if they were being nice to you, they wouldn’t flirt with other people. 

I’ve dated guys that say they’re too nice and it annoyed the piss out of me. I found it an excuse for their flirty and non-confrontational behavior to women who were interested in them. And what is nice about that?!

My FI is nice, but he’s also direct. When any lady remotely flirts with him, he puts them off as nice as possible, but is direct about me. 

Post # 15
9557 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I dunno. Seems weird, but not overly flirty. I probably would have reacted the same way your husband did. But, I’m not very well versed in most social media, so I don’t even understand why a stranger would have access to his resume In the first place. Regardless, why care about random internet people?

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