(Closed) SO ANNOYED with future Brother in law!! Errr!!

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 4
218 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Sounds like he is really immature to me.  He should be happy for his brother and want to be there no matter what.  Obviously that is a hard thing to just ignore.  Seems like you will have to talk things out with Mr. M. . . i wouldnt reply to that text though.  It wont get you very far with someone who has an attitude like that.

I wish I had some advice for you!!  I am sorry you are having to deal with that =(

Post # 5
602 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m sorry, but I found your story kind of confusing. So your FI’s brother is now refusing to be part of your bridal party?

Post # 8
1927 posts
Buzzing bee

Well… I do think you were in the wrong to complain to the older brother about the younger brother.  It’s not good to air your problems with one family member to another.

However, the younger brother definitely did over react.  I think you should not ignore the text.  I would call him and apologize for bad mouthing him to the other brother and then explain that you were just feeling frustrated because it was hurtful to you that he wasn’t willing to make your wedding a priority in his life.  Hopefully that will open up a productive conversation.




Post # 10
1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I agree with Moose.  Call and apologize and from now on, let your husband deal with his family.  It will be a huge stress relief and I know from personal experience.  Just give up worrying about whether they will show up and what they will wear and let your husband communicate everything to them.  And then yes, no venting to his family about other family.  While you will be family, you are never really family in the same way.

P.S. I completely understand your frustration though!  I think most bees on here can share similar stories.

Post # 11
6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Just ignore the text, this nonsense has to stop somewhere. Every time you talk to Brother-In-Law it gets worse. Just stop.

Post # 12
1489 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@jlcadm: He is being an Ass…Sorry but he is


Post # 13
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

i think you are in the wrong – you shouldnt have bitched to your Future Brother-In-Law about his own brother, even if he agreed with you. how would you feel if you found out your Future Brother-In-Law was bitching about you to your sister/mom/whatever??    

but hes also being an ass – im guessing he must be great in bed for his girlfriend to put up with his sorry butt for 8yrs

Post # 14
14658 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I agree with PP and you already acknowledge that it was a bad idea to complain about one sibling to another when you arent that close to either of them.  Loyalties will normally lie within the family and you don’t know how info is passed between them.  But, as for little brother, geez, f**k him too then.  Theres too much other crap to worry about in life than difficult immature uncaring people with issues.  This is your FI’s battle, let him deal with him.

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