Post # 1
I’m SO annoyed with RSVPs!!!
Our wedding is in 4 days and our RSVP deadline was on August 1st. We were missing several RSVPs on the day of the deadline and spent the next 2 weeks trying to track them down. My Dad was great about it, he called people 3-4 days after the deadline and if they were if-ey about it he pretty much demanded a “yes or no”. FH’s parents had trouble contacting people and got answers from their moms/grandmothers etc. Then, of course, the answers changed, ugh! So, on Friday night (13 days after the deadline) we FINALLY had all the RSVPs and tackled the seating chart, which took several hours.
Today I found out that 4 seperate people (not related to each other at all) have backed out of coming to the wedding. UGH!!!! I don’t know all the reasons but the ones I do know are things that they knew two weeks ago!!!!!! One is FI’s cousin who is not yet married (or engaged), is it bad that I want to back out of her future wedding 4 days before it just to be spiteful?
I guess whats really annoying me is that most of these people were sitting at tables that were a bit sparce to begin with (most of our tables have 7, 8 or 9 people and three of these guests were at the 7-person tables!)
Meanwhile, my good friend who had a heart-attack scare last week and has been ordered to rest for a few days called me to let me know that he was absolutely still coming to the wedding!
Ugh, seriously!?!?! Whats wrong with people?!?!
Post # 3
How stressful. I have a feeling the same thing will happen to me…
Post # 4
sammmme thing happening to me. What a pain in the arse
Post # 5
Yep, been there done that. It’s so effing frustrating. We had ALL sorts or rsvp drama and it was so stressful. I feel your pain.
Post # 6
So weird to have so many back out at the last minute. Hopefully you can rearrange the tables … and if not, don’t worry! I always think of extra seats at tables as an invitation for someone else to sit down there to chat … even if they have another assigned seat!
Post # 7
I’m four days out as well and just had another couple cancel. That’s now 5 in the past week. These were all for very good reasons (i.e. close family member dying, mother in the hospital) so I can’t fault them. Luckily today was the last day to give the final count to the caterer so we arent’ stuck paying for the no shows. Honestly, I’m just sad I won’t be able to see them at the wedding.
Post # 8
I’m so sorry you have to deal with this! Guests backing out would so get my goat. Don’t these people know what we go through?
Post # 9
I plan to take all uncertain answers by my rsvp date as no’s if they contact me 4 days prior to say they are coming I wont be nice about it and let them know that there is no space for them.I know his friends are so hard to get to commit to any kind of plan no matter what it is, but i dont plan to be nice to them and wait until that clsoe to my wedding for them to decide if they want to or not
Post # 10
I am hoping that since we are having the wedding 12 hours away people won’t be so back and forth since you kinda gotta plan it or not. However, I think some people always underestimate the need to know how many guests will be coming.
Post # 11
I’m pretty sure that this is something that most brides deal with. Not that knowing that makes it any easier on you…one of my Bridesmaid or Best Man who got married last year was also really frustrated by this. She even talked to people the day before the wedding and they were going to be there and then the day of…they no showed. It’s very frustrating, and I don’t blame you at all for wanting to give some of them a taste of their own medicine.
My guess is, though, that you’ll be WAY more conscious from now on about your own rsvp process…I know that I am!
Post # 12
We had a 100 person minimum so although we’ve had a couple of people change their minds, we have to pay for them regardless so it doesn’t sting quite as much.
Post # 13
Oh Daisy- I feel your pain! I often plan large meetings/events in my job, and this happens all the time. It is SO frustrating and I know it will drive me crazy with our wedding. I’ve already heard how the Mr.’s family is notorious for not responding. I’m with lovehim– I’ll have his family call once and then I’m taking all no responses as no’s (this is also what I do in my job). Inevitably some will show up who either didn’t answer or said no, and some won’t show who said they would. The best advice I have is not to take it personally- people are just RSVP challenged and others are just plain inconsiderate. Like FutureMrsBLT we have a minimum we have to meet ($-wise) and we’re not expecting to meet it even if all our invitees come.
Post # 14
🙁 I’m so sorry! I cannot imagine how upset that must make you. I know how heartbroken I would be if I sent invitations out and has people who were important to me not be able to come!
Post # 15
I know how you feel-someone from work just didn’t show up (with her husband and daughter) so my table of 8 became a table of 5. I don’t think there is anything more rude than RSVP’ing yes to a wedding and then not showing up. For no reason. Ugh.