(Closed) So annoyed with late/changing RSVPs!! -Vent

posted 9 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

How stressful.  I have a feeling the same thing will happen to me…

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

sammmme thing happening to me.  What a pain in the arse

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Yep, been there done that. It’s so effing frustrating. We had ALL sorts or rsvp drama and it was so stressful. I feel your pain.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

So weird to have so many back out at the last minute. Hopefully you can rearrange the tables … and if not, don’t worry! I always think of extra seats at tables as an invitation for someone else to sit down there to chat … even if they have another assigned seat!

Post # 7
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Helper bee

I’m four days out as well and just had another couple cancel.  That’s now 5 in the past week.  These were all for very good reasons (i.e. close family member dying, mother in the hospital) so I can’t fault them.  Luckily today was the last day to give the final count to the caterer so we arent’ stuck paying for the no shows.  Honestly, I’m just sad I won’t be able to see them at the wedding.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I’m so sorry you have to deal with this! Guests backing out would so get my goat. Don’t these people know what we go through?

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I plan to take all uncertain answers by my rsvp date as no’s if they contact me 4 days prior to say they are coming I wont be nice about it and let them know that there is no space for them.I know his friends are so hard to get to commit to any kind of plan no matter what it is, but i dont plan to be nice to them and wait until that clsoe to my wedding for them to decide if they want to or not

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

 I am hoping that since we are having the wedding 12 hours away people won’t be so back and forth since you kinda gotta plan it or not. However, I think some people always underestimate the need to know how many guests will be coming.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I’m pretty sure that this is something that most brides deal with.  Not that knowing that makes it any easier on you…one of my Bridesmaid or Best Man who got married last year was also really frustrated by this.  She even talked to people the day before the wedding and they were going to be there and then the day of…they no showed.  It’s very frustrating, and I don’t blame you at all for wanting to give some of them a taste of their own medicine.

My guess is, though, that you’ll be WAY more conscious from now on about your own rsvp process…I know that I am!

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

We had a 100 person minimum so although we’ve had a couple of people change their minds, we have to pay for them regardless so it doesn’t sting quite as much.

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Oh Daisy- I feel your pain! I often plan large meetings/events in my job, and this happens all the time. It is SO frustrating and I know it will drive me crazy with our wedding. I’ve already heard how the Mr.’s family is notorious for not responding. I’m with lovehim– I’ll have his family call once and then I’m taking all no responses as no’s (this is also what I do in my job). Inevitably some will show up who either didn’t answer or said no, and some won’t show who said they would. The best advice I have is not to take it personally- people are just RSVP challenged and others are  just plain inconsiderate. Like FutureMrsBLT we have a minimum we have to meet ($-wise) and we’re not expecting to meet it even if all our invitees come.

Best wishes!

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

🙁 I’m so sorry! I cannot imagine how upset that must make you. I know how heartbroken I would be if I sent invitations out and has people who were important to me not be able to come!

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I know how you feel-someone from work just didn’t show up (with her husband and daughter) so my table of 8 became a table of 5. I don’t think there is anything more rude than RSVP’ing yes to a wedding and then not showing up. For no reason. Ugh.

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