- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2015
I’ve been noticing something interesting lately. My SO grew up poor, but now makes, and for the past 10 years, has made a good income. For the first few years of our relationship, he was always picky and kind of tight with money. Nice about it, and didn’t skimp on things like food or holiday gifts, but picky about what he spent on vacations, and particular about splitting the costs of things (to some degree).
I have always made a lot less than him, so the whole money thing has been interesting anyway. But now, his tightness with money seems to have pretty much gone away. He’s suddenly surprisingly willing to do things like pay extra for us to have a nice vacation, when I could only afford to split something not super nice, or help me with an unexpected expense (as I am a broke grad student and he works full time. . . I always pay him back). His attitude towards money, where it comes to things for both of us, has changed– it’s almost like he’s thinking of us like more of a unit so he is willing to be more generous.
This is silly, but because this has happened since we started talking about getting married sometime in the next 2 or 3 years, I wonder if it means his attitude about me/us has changed, like he knows he wants me permanently so he’s more into spending on “us things”?
Wow, I sound so materialistic posting this. I guess what I’m really wondering, is if anyone else in a similar financial situation noticed a change like this in the months before getting engaged? I think that’s what’s going on here, so I’m super curious about whether anyone else has noticed a similar increase in generosity in the months preceding getting engaged.
(I should note that he has significant savings, so he can easily afford the (inexpensive) engagement rings we’ve discussed).