(Closed) So close to pushing back the wedding date. I’m so upset.

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1230 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

It sounds like both your mother and his parents agreed to pay for the wedding.  Your mother needs to be UP FRONT – Yes or No. ASAP.  If she can’t then I would really feel bad relying solely on FIs family and they might start feeling mad about a happy occasion. 



Post # 4
11166 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

Ugh I am so sorry as I am in the middle of this issue myself. I think that you need to bring it up to your mom right away and ask her what she can do, reminding her of her previous committment to help.

Good luck and I hope that things will work out.

Post # 5
4824 posts
Honey bee

Think of other solutions

What ways can you cut corners/expenses?

Is your fiance living at home? Can he move home to save what little he makes? Can he find another part time job?

Can you find a part time job. Many people go to school and babysit, work at a store or any number of PP. A

sk mom now to commit to what she can afford and ask her to write a check to you now. Tell her you need to know what you can afford for the wedding, but if she can not afford to pay, that is OK, you just need to know what is available to work with.

Post # 6
9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Honestly, maybe pushing the wedding back wouldn’t be such a bad idea?

From what it sounds like in a few of your posts, the money just isn’t there, from you and Fiance, some of your bridesmaids, your mother… there’s no need to push for something if it’s not financially realistic. And having money problems from the get-go only add a ton more strain to a marriage. It’s not a great way to start out your life together. I speak from experience.

I know it would be disappointing, but it sounds like the most practical thing at this point… sorry.

Post # 7
2701 posts
Sugar bee

I agree with PPs, gently talk to your mom and very nicely explain the situation that you’re in. Explaint that you’re not trying to be pushy, but that you’re at a bit of a standstill because you’re not sure if this wedding is happening or not due to finances. Once you know for sure if she will help financially or not, I would recommend either finding a part-time job or begin selling things on Etsy. I saw the bouquet you made and it was awesome. Brides who are less than crafty will gladly pay for quality made items. I am a seller on Etsy now after doing my wedding crafts and have made enough money to pay off our caterer. Just a suggestion! I wish you luck hun.

Post # 8
3222 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I had to deal with this issue when I first got engaged.

When we first got engaged, my parents said we had a 10k budget. Within a week of that, my mom said it would be more like 8k. Then a few days after that it was Fiance and I paying half. 

It’s been tough, but we’ve made it work.

Sorry you’re going through this 🙁

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