(Closed) So confused…

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

No, he’s an arsehole. If he’s acting like this now, imagine how it would be later! 

Post # 3
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Blushing bee

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andromeda1087:  agree with PP, this guy seems like a jerk he had no reason to get angry at all. I wouldn’t waste my time talking to him anymore. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Screw him. Coffee is perfectly normal. His attitude is not a good way to start dating.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee

I would actually be kind of freaked out if he reacted like that. I mean, already with online dating you have that element of uncertainty about who you’re really meeting. Objecting to going for coffee because it’s not “serious enough” would be a red flag for me. Be careful! 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Jeez, most people wait a while before they show off their anger issues. Dodge that bullet!

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Totally agree. Coffee is the standard first date (I work in the online dating industry and have been there myself). A coffee or a quick drink in a busy place is what I would ways recommend. It gives you the option of just having a quick one and leaving, or enjoying a long afternoon in a cafe if you hit it off. 

Definitely avoid this man – what do you have to do to prove you’re serious? if it’s committing to a whole day where you could potentially be alone with him, he spells trouble. 

  • This reply was modified 5 years, 8 months ago by  nearlymrshill.
Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Weird. Well dodged. 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

Wow! What a strange reaction! A coffee/drink is definitely a first date activity!! Easy to cut short if not going well, and easy to lengthen if having a great time. I don’t think I’d keep talking to him or meet him- seems like this outburst is a major red flag! 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Wow, what an overreaction on his part! I agree with the others, it’s a little screwed up and scary. I’m glad to read you’re done with him. I wonder if he was offended because he thought you had another date later that night with another guy since you didn’t commit to more than coffee. Who knows? Good riddance!  As far as I know, coffee dates are perfectly acceptable ways to meet up with a potentially crazy guy from the internet.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

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andromeda1087:  I think meeting up for coffee is fine.  Be careful, hope he wasn’t expecting anything else.  I had a friend that was on a couple of dating sites and the guys she would go out with in the end just wanted to sleep with her.  I’m not saying dating sites are bad, just be careful.  You never really know a person until you acutally spend time with them. 

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

Yup. Agree with all the above, coffee is normal, his reaction is not. He sounds like a nutter!

 

Post # 14
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Busy bee

block him. he’s terrifying.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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andromeda1087:  he is psycho! Run!

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