(Closed) So confused!

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
513 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

So sorry your having to feel this way :(.  I understand as I am going though something similar with mine.. to the point that they have not even bothered to reply or acknowledge our wedding announcement/Save the Date or my sisters daughter being a bridesmaid!! 

Of course it hurts but I realised that I had said I only wanted people at the wedding that truly loved us and as actions speak louder than words… I was able to see that even though they are my family whom I will always love.. I accept that they do not reciprocate that love in return to me.  Talking to them only ends in an argument about Why they should bother!!! I guess therein lies the answer… 

Enjoy YOUR day with whoever chooses to be there with you and don’t bother wasting energy and love on those that don’t give it back.. because they are not wasting energy thinking about you.. 



Post # 4
4193 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

You said they weren’t involved with your first wedding, so I’m a little surprised you’re expecting them to be involved now/counting on them the most. 

If they rsvp no for the *wedding* because of their kid’s activities, that’s a problem. Not everyone is “into” weddings- I’m sure they’re excited/happy for you, it just sounds like they’re putting their kids first. Dad being at playoffs is a BIG deal to a kid- your feelings will be hurt instead of their child’s, which makes sense.  

I’m sure you’ll have a fabulous time at the Engagement Party with those who can make it! 🙂


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