(Closed) So Confused about Music: Cocktail? Dinner? Help!

posted 8 years ago in Music
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Crestmore Manor

If there are rules, I was unaware and they will not be observed at my wedding. I decided I really wanted a Frank Sinatra feel to our cocktail hour and fiance caved when I pointed out we would be busy taking pictures so he probably wouldn’t be listening to it anyways.

We chose rock music for dinner, we both love queen and 80s rock and since it’s not all great dancing music we decided the best time to play it would be during dinner.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

That is definitely not a rule, and lyrics are fine. Usually at cocktail hour and dinner is that the music is played on a lower volume so that it’s just background noise and people can hear each other talk. But there’s no rule at all against lyrics… almost everyone at every wedding I’ve ever been to plays Sinatra at their cocktail hour. ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

No rules, play what you want! ๐Ÿ™‚

Think about the feel you want at both.  Personally, I’m saving songs that might make people sing along for dancing later.  We’ll have live musicians playing jazz and broadway-type music for cocktail hour and the DJ will play something easy-listening for dinner.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)

@MissBananaBread: I totally agree! It’s not rude at all, but definitely think about the feel you’re going for. Darling Husband and I wanted our dinner music to be as upbeat as possible without being distracting, so we used a bunch of song by the Vitamin String Quartet, and that was perfect for us. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - The Mountain Terrace, Woodside, CA

Yah, I don’t think there are rules!

We opted to do happy, upbeat songs for the cocktail hour, like Beatles, Jack Johnson, Tom Petty, Ingrid Michaelson, Plain White Ts, Israel Kamakawiwo’ole

Then for dinner we slowed it down a little, since the music was turned down, stuff like Eta James, Norah Jones, One Republic, Adele, Eric Clapton

And then for the rest of the night it was dance music!

The only thing you might want to keep in mind is to limit the number of songs with bad language, so the older folks aren’t offended. Or just play the edited versions. Of course, that said, we played more hip hop and “questionable” songs later in the evening, after the older crowd was already gone. Good luck!

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010 - Parents' backyard

LMFAO – Shots was on our cocktail music playlist. But I bet that doesn’t surprise you.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011 - Trinity Lutheran Church & Idlewild Country Club

I cannot even remember what our cocktail music was. I literally can’t name on song. . . how weird is that? I’m pretty sure we asked for general Rat Pack/Jazzy stuff, but I can’t even tell you if that’s what was played ;-). Hahaha.

Oh well! I think you can make it what ever you want it to be ๐Ÿ˜€

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