Post # 1
So my boyfriend and I have been together for a while and we are super happy together. We have in the past talked about the fact that we want to marry each other. Last night we talked for a hour or so about getting engaged and rings. And last night he actually brought up marrige licences and was asking how we get it and all that. But then this morning when we woke up we kind of started talking about it again and this time he seems kind of aggitated and said “I know but you have to what a while”.
Im just confused how he went from talk of rings and marrige licences to being aggitated by it in 8 hours.
What do you think?
Anyone have anything simalar happen to them? How did it turn out?
Post # 3
I am thinking may be cost make have gotten him upset? I am not sure of the numbers you both spoke about but I could see the cost of things making someone annoyed.
Give him some time and then bring it up again to see where his head is. Maybe he just didn’t want to talk about it first thing in the morning.
Post # 4
Yeah, maybe if it was just when he woke up, he wasn’t wuite ready to talk about it again. Also, I know with my boyfriend, he wants to talk about it sometimes, but if I bring it up often, he gets aggravated too. Because we aren’t engaged yet, he feels like we should save most of those convos for after he proposes. So talking about it so much is kind of premature to him. Maybe your Boyfriend or Best Friend feels this way too?
The good thing is that you guys seem to be on the same page and he has shown interest in weddings and wants to marry you so it’s not like you have a problem there. Just give him a little time before talking about it again or try to get all your ideas and questions out here on the Bee where we never get tired of talking about weddings 🙂
Post # 5
oh thats just a guy for you.
With my FI- he would be excited and talk about it one day. The next, I’d bring it up and I could tell he didn’t want to talk about it. so, I wouldn’t read into it. Let him bring it up the next time.
Post # 6
Sometimes you can freak yourself out and just need time to digest. I know this happened to me (I was the one to freak out) when we started to discuss it. Give him a few weeks, but don’t be super afraid to bring it up. This is your future too and you shouldn’t have to tip toe around him.
Post # 7
yea that is TOTALLY a guy thing. One minute they will be all into it, the next they act all weirded out or annoyed or something. (pppfff they think we are the crazy ones) so no sweat, I think it’s normal…
Post # 8
I disagree, I do not think it is a guy thing. :-/
I think it may be an immature guy thing.
I do hope you work it out.
Post # 9
Doesn’t mean he is immature. I was a 39yo woman who sometimes would be overwhelmed at the “forever and ever” part and just needed some time to sort through my feelings.
Post # 10
@KoiKove: yep! I think it’s just normal. Men and Women can also read each other a little differently. Like he might say something or act a certain way, but we don’t even realize to take what they are saying at face value sometimes and then we read waaaay too much into it. (and vice versa) … Like my SO is one of the most mature people I know and I have thought before that he was being annoyed by something when I really just interpreted something differently. It’s true what they say, communication is key.
Post # 11
@KoiKove: I completely relate, cause I to was a tad committment phobic for many years in our relationship. Getting married is a freaking big deal.
Post # 12
Thank you all for all your help. I went to him last night and asked him about it and he told me he didn’t mean to sound aggitated, that he wasn’t at all. We talked more about it last night and he ask me what kind of ring I want!!!!! So we agreed I should start looking at rings to give him an idea of what I like! I am so excited. Still don’t know how long he will make me wait but I hope it won’t be to long I can’t wait to be his FI!
Post # 13
Glad to hear you guys were able to talk about this!