Post # 1
This could be a long post…
I was pretty sure I found the dress (Allure 2456). I loved everything about it and how it made me look & feel, other than it being a little revealing on top (but the dress was a size or two small, so I figure the right size and bra would be okay). I kept looking and found one today that made me cry (Mori Lee 2105). I have no idea why. It has everything I thought I didn’t want and is so different than everything else I’ve liked:
-Organza (I love satin) -No ruching (dresses without it generally aren’t flattering to my midsection) -Very symmetrical and almost looks like a top and skirt separates -Empire waist (I’d been loving typical to full a-lines, many with drop waists) -Band under the bust, which I think accents my chest which I always want to down play
Immediately after I stopped crying (it was only a minute) I realized all these things and second guessed it all. I left deciding to think about it and wanting to figure out how I felt about the first one. After looking at these pictures I’m wondering what I ever liked about it on me. It doesn’t seem flattering in pictures, accentuates my chest and is just a very plain shape.
I went back to the other store that had the original Allure and tried it on in a bigger size (one or two sizes too big this time) and I think I love it again. But what I’m hung up on is why the hell did I cry over the Mori Lee? My mom, grandma & Maid/Matron of Honor swore it looked great in person and agree the pics don’t do it justice. But why buy a dress if it doesn’t look great in pictures AND in person?
Please help me! Has anyone ever cried over a dress that they then didn’t like?? What looks the best and am I insane?? Maybe I cried out of frustration that FINALLY that store gave me a dress that wasn’t awful at that appointment? I should add that while I’m generally very emotional, I haven’t cried at all before today when trying on dresses…
Allure (Ivory and slightly too small)
Allure (White and slightly too big) – would order in ivory like above
Mori Lee (the confusion!)
Post # 3
I also cried when I tried on a dress.. bought it.. but wasn’t completely happy. (I second guessed it almost immedietely!) So I’m buying another one!! Ahh. You definitely do NOT want to go through this. Just take your time and relax. (but I think the first is wayyy prettier!)
Post # 4
@RedWine13: First one is best.
Post # 5
I think the Allure is more flattering on your body shape, but you should go with your heart!
Post # 7
I think that you look absolutely incredible in the ivory Allure that you said is a bit too small. It’s fabulous on you! I definitely like that color on your as well.
I personally am not a fan of the Mori Lee. I think there is too much going on, and some of the details are distracting. However, if you love it, then perhaps it is the dress for you.
Nevertheless, I just wanted to note that it’s possible that you cried simply because planning a wedding is usually a highly emotional, high-stress, and often overwhelming process. Perhaps your emotions were just catching up with you at that moment.
Post # 8
both are flattering on you for different reasons. they are obviously two totally different dresses! I personally like the first one, but only because I’ve never been a huge fan of material criss-crossing in the middle – however, it makes your waist look super tiny! I think you should just sit down in a quiet room and invision yourself on your big day – then listen to what your heart tells you…you will know! Good luck 🙂
Post # 9
I’m actually more in favor of the second dress. It could be a personal taste thing (I tend to like dresses with more beading, etc.), but I also think it’s very flattering on you. The first dress looks good on you as well, but I think the material criss-crossing in the middle on the second dress is rather slimming (and somewhat elongating as well).
Ultimately, I think you should spend a little more time looking at the pictures of yourself in the dresses and try them both on again if you can. That may help in your final decision.
Post # 10
I like the Allure better. I don’t love the bottom of it per se…but the fit of it is very lovely on you.
Post # 11
The ivory allure is beautiful!!
Post # 13
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
Don’t be swayed by everyone telling you to go for one dress over the other. Go for the dress that makes you FEEL the most bridal. Which one can you picture yourself walking down the aisle in?
When I was searching for dresses, I had a weird experience early on. I always thought I wanted a satin, corseted ballgown. I even tried one on that my mom literally started balling crying over in the store. As they were lacing me up, she screamed, “THAT’S YOUR DRESS!!” I didn’t so much as tear up. I was like, “Seriously? Why am I not reacting?” It had everything I could have ever wanted, but it just didn’t feel right.
In the end, I picked a lace and tulle mermaid gown. Nothing like what I thought I wanted. It took me FOREVER to find my dress, and now that I have it, I keep second guessing if it’s the right one. The thing that makes me feel better about my choice is that it does look great on me. Everyone says so. And at one point I just thought, “I’m never going to find something I like MORE than what I have on right now.” And that was it for me.
It’s a big decision, so you don’t want to make the wrong one. But your guests are never going to know what you DIDN’T choose. No one is going to say, “Oh man, she really should have chosen that OTHER dress.” And same thing with your fiance. He’s going to think you’re the most gorgeous girl on the planet no matter what (or you shouldn’t be marrying him in the first place). So, which dress FEELS right? Pick that one and don’t look back. I hope this helps.
Post # 14
I agree with Christy42213. Just relax, and remember that it’s one day, and no one will know what you didn’t pick. That should give you some freedom in your decision. It’s what you want to wear. Plain and simple.
I had invisioned myself in a tea length 50’s style dress with straps. Then, through a long process of searching and evolving in my vision, found a full length strapless lace sheath dress that I loved. I stood there (didn’t tear up), and thought, “this is exactly what I want, and I love how I look in it.” So I bought it.
I don’t like that people say, “you’ll just know!” or “when you cry, that’s the one!” because that is putting pressure on your subconscious to have a reaction that you may not ever have. I’m not an intuitive person, I’m more of a logical, weigh-the-pros-and-cons gal. I didn’t cry, nor did I “just know.” But I picked my dress because I loved it, loved how I looked and felt in it, and the price was within my budget. No magic for me, just a great dress!
Maybe try not to overthink it for a few days, give yourself some room, then revisit the photos?
Both are beautiful, fret not 🙂
Post # 15
I think that the Allure gives you a really great shape, as does the Mori Lee… However, I think the Mori Lee draws much more attention to your bust area. Not sure how you feel about that, but I personally wouldn’t like it for that reason.
They are both really pretty dresses, but I am also a little biased, since I tend to lean towards dresses with rouching…
It’s possible you cried on the Mori Lee just because you felt overwhelmed, since you liked the style but didn’t expect it.
Post # 16
This makes me feel so much better. Thanks!!
I think I do need to go with that approach of there is nothing I’m going to like on me MORE b/c I think I’m too indecisive to ever have a real “moment of clarity” about it. lol. The more I look at the Allure pics, the more I love it. I think the second time I tried it on (right after the Mori Lee) I couldn’t be sure b/c I felt so forced to compare it to the Mori Lee and decide what I thought. I’m going to try on a couple more, but I’m pretty sure the Allure is it!
I think you are right. I think I cried because everyone loved, it expected to hate it and it looked better than expected. But it definitely is not MY dress. And yes, the attention to the bust is one thing I hate about dresses! I’m trying to hide the girls! lol
Thanks for all the help girls! I really appreciate it!