(Closed) So confused… dress help please! (pic heavy)

posted 6 years ago in Dress
  • poll: What dress and am I crazy for crying over a dress and then second guessing??
    Allure : (95 votes)
    90 %
    Mori Lee : (8 votes)
    8 %
    Yes, you are crazy to cry over the Mori and then not like it. : (1 votes)
    1 %
    Other (explain please) : (2 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I also cried when I tried on a dress.. bought it.. but wasn’t completely happy. (I second guessed it almost immedietely!) So I’m buying another one!! Ahh. You definitely do NOT want to go through this. Just take your time and relax.  (but I think the first is wayyy prettier!)

    Post # 5
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    I think the Allure is more flattering on your body shape, but you should go with your heart!

    Post # 6
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    10453 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I like the first Allure!

    Post # 7
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I think that you look absolutely incredible in the ivory Allure that you said is a bit too small.  It’s fabulous on you! I definitely like that color on your as well.

    I personally am not a fan of the Mori Lee.  I think there is too much going on, and some of the details are distracting.  However, if you love it, then perhaps it is the dress for you.

    Nevertheless, I just wanted to note that it’s possible that you cried simply because planning a wedding is usually a highly emotional, high-stress, and often overwhelming process. Perhaps your emotions were just catching up with you at that moment.

    Post # 8
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    363 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    both are flattering on you for different reasons. they are obviously two totally different dresses! I personally like the first one, but only because I’ve never been a huge fan of material criss-crossing in the middle – however, it makes your waist look super tiny! I think you should just sit down in a quiet room and invision yourself on your big day – then listen to what your heart tells you…you will know! Good luck 🙂

    Post # 9
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I’m actually more in favor of the second dress. It could be a personal taste thing (I tend to like dresses with more beading, etc.), but I also think it’s very flattering on you. The first dress looks good on you as well, but I think the material criss-crossing in the middle on the second dress is rather slimming (and somewhat elongating as well).

    Ultimately, I think you should spend a little more time looking at the pictures of yourself in the dresses and try them both on again if you can. That may help in your final decision.

    Good luck!

    Post # 10
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I like the Allure better.  I don’t love the bottom of it per se…but the fit of it is very lovely on you.

    Post # 11
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    The ivory allure is beautiful!!

    Post # 12
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    #1

    Post # 13
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

    Don’t be swayed by everyone telling you to go for one dress over the other.  Go for the dress that makes you FEEL the most bridal.  Which one can you picture yourself walking down the aisle in?

    When I was searching for dresses, I had a weird experience early on.  I always thought I wanted a satin, corseted ballgown.  I even tried one on that my mom literally started balling crying over in the store.  As they were lacing me up, she screamed, “THAT’S YOUR DRESS!!”  I didn’t so much as tear up.  I was like, “Seriously?  Why am I not reacting?”  It had everything I could have ever wanted, but it just didn’t feel right.

    In the end, I picked a lace and tulle mermaid gown.  Nothing like what I thought I wanted.  It took me FOREVER to find my dress, and now that I have it, I keep second guessing if it’s the right one. The thing that makes me feel better about my choice is that it does look great on me.  Everyone says so.  And at one point I just thought, “I’m never going to find something I like MORE than what I have on right now.”  And that was it for me.

    It’s a big decision, so you don’t want to make the wrong one.  But your guests are never going to know what you DIDN’T choose.  No one is going to say, “Oh man, she really should have chosen that OTHER dress.”  And same thing with your fiance.  He’s going to think you’re the most gorgeous girl on the planet no matter what (or you shouldn’t be marrying him in the first place).  So, which dress FEELS right?  Pick that one and don’t look back.  I hope this helps.

    Post # 14
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I agree with Christy42213. Just relax, and remember that it’s one day, and no one will know what you didn’t pick. That should give you some freedom in your decision. It’s what you want to wear. Plain and simple. 

    I had invisioned myself in a tea length 50’s style dress with straps. Then, through a long process of searching and evolving in my vision, found a full length strapless lace sheath dress that I loved. I stood there (didn’t tear up), and thought, “this is exactly what I want, and I love how I look in it.” So I bought it. 

    I don’t like that people say, “you’ll just know!” or “when you cry, that’s the one!” because that is putting pressure on your subconscious to have a reaction that you may not ever have. I’m not an intuitive person, I’m more of a logical, weigh-the-pros-and-cons gal. I didn’t cry, nor did I “just know.” But I picked my dress because I loved it, loved how I looked and felt in it, and the price was within my budget. No magic for me, just a great dress!

    Maybe try not to overthink it for a few days, give yourself some room, then revisit the photos?

    Both are beautiful, fret not 🙂

    Post # 15
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I think that the Allure gives you a really great shape, as does the Mori Lee… However, I think the Mori Lee draws much more attention to your bust area.  Not sure how you feel about that, but I personally wouldn’t like it for that reason.

    They are both really pretty dresses, but I am also a little biased, since I tend to lean towards dresses with rouching…

    It’s possible you cried on the Mori Lee just because you felt overwhelmed, since you liked the style but didn’t expect it. 

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