(Closed) so crushed: can’t afford the venue any longer…

posted 12 years ago in Reception
Post # 4
535 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

If you don’t mind getting married in a church you could check around. I’m using the one my FI’s parents attend. It’s free and included is the whole set up (tables, chairs, linens, etc etc). I couldn’t believe how expensive places were in the off season around here and I was soo happy to find this deal.

Post # 6
3928 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

You could email them yourself and ask for a quote without mentioning the wedding.

Post # 8
535 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Well, I’m not super comfortable with it either, but we won’t be in a “church-ey” part. It’s actually the church gym and some meeting rooms. But whatever works for you two will be perfect.

Post # 11
1268 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

You might want to mention to them that your wedding would be a very small affair and ask if perhaps you could have a price cut due to this

Post # 12
183 posts
Blushing bee

You could do two things

A) Take the high road and look for another venue that works within your budget

B) Sit across from the venue folks – don’t email as its quite easy to be unclear and obfuscate – and discuss the extra 2500. Sounds to me like they just heard “wedding”and went “KA-ching!” Make a side by side comparision checklist of what you would get if you were renting the place vs. having a wedding there. If you love your venue don’t give it up without a fight. Most face to face negotiations have a better chance of working out in your favour, especially if you are the buyer.


Best of luck!

Post # 14
445 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

You know I am sorry this has happened to you … the exact same thing happened to us …. We was originally quoted a price of $800 to rent this mansion out overnight… well when we asked about wanting to have our ceremony there it went up to $1,200… ok still doable… then when we said we wanted to have our reception there outside as well it all of a sudden jumped to $3,900 & we only got a 4 hr block of time (5-9)to do the ceremony and reception even though we would be having the house for a full 24 hrs.

It is crazy ridculous how as soon as you say the word wedding things more than double in price. We were looking up prices online to have parties catered…. the exact same meal that was provided for a private party ran.. $6per person… when we called she quoted us $13.00per person.. FOR THE EXACT SAME THING!


Post # 15
113 posts
Blushing bee

I think your FMIL’s mistake was saying the magic word that is sure to drive up the price double or triple the original price (“wedding”) I am sure if you said reunion or family function–there would be no issue at all. Next time ask her not to mention wedding

 However, the house sleeps 16 and you will be having 30. So I am assuming the reason the price is increased also reflects the fact that she knows that you will be having a lot more people on the property. And then there is the caterer and vendors on the property as well (But basically she just knows that she can charge more because it is a wedding)

Would you consider possibly “charging” your guests a fee for their rooms for the weekend?

We are renting a B&B for the weekend for our wedding (similar in size to yours) Our guests will also be paying for their rooms themselves which helps bring down the costs.


Post # 16
67 posts
Worker bee

So if you had your wedding ‘rehearsal’ and your ‘rehearsal dinner’ there with your immediate family at the rented ‘family vacation house’ is it possible to still keep this venue? What if any are their rules on have a small family get together at the venue; after all it is a family vacation location and you have an intimate day planned?  

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