Post # 1
So I wrote here last week about how a friend of mine told me my bf is ring shopping (2 weeks ago now) and i’m going freakin nuts waiting for it! I kinda knew he was shopping, but once I knew for sure, I just got so excited I couldn’t stop thinking of it. Then this weekend I had a different friend in town (who of course I told about the situation) and she told me that last night while I was in the bathroom my bf told her he was saving money for a ring! So apparently he’s not doing so well at the keeping his mouth shut either. (We don’t talk to each other about it, but I’m telling all my friends and he does too haha).
This all left me really anxious as of this morning because he’s telling people he’s shopping/saving and I’m stuck waiting around twiddling my thumbs. Then we got into a talk about money in general and he was telling me how hard he’s been working to save (which I knew but we hadn’t really talked about) and how hard it’s been etc. It was all in the context of the house we’re thinking about buying next year. He went on to say that he’d been feeling badly because we’ve been planning on using some money I have saved for a down payment and some of his coworkers were giving him a hard time about the fact that I make more and have more saved. By the end of the probably hour + discussion, I just felt like it was so cute how hard he’s been working to save money and do other things to advance his career so that he feels like he can “take care of” me. Not that I need taking care of, but it’s still nice to have someone offer ya know?
So basically it sounds to me like the ring might be a few more months (maybe not even vacation in October) if he was being honest about the amount he has saved and that is really frustrating because I just want to be engaged already… but also I felt so lucky that I have such a good guy who is making so many sacrifices to buy me a ring and a nice house.
Post # 3
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
Well, if it makes you feel any better, my fiancee went on and on for a month or two before he proposed about money and how he really wished he could afford to get my ring but that it just wasn’t the right time.
He had me absolutely convinced it was going to be at least 6 months or so, but turns out he already had the ring the whole time!
Post # 4
haha i wish that were the case but i really doubt it. he has no idea that i know he’s shopping. he probably knows i suspect it, but he doesn’t know my friends have big mouths (love them!). Plus, our money discussion was not at all about engagement/ring/marriage today. We were talking about the house next year and such.
I think what he’s most upset about is that he’s been working for 3 years and didn’t really start saving until about 2 months ago. I was always on him to save (I’m a saver he’s a spender) and he basically didn’t *get it* until he realized that if we are going to get married, get a house, have kids, etc we can’t be living paycheck to paycheck and he needs to be banking some cash. He said he just feels stupid for spending so much in the past few years and not worrying about saving. Understandable, but we’re just 24 now so if it took him a few years to mature and figure this stuff out on his own that’s fine with me. I just wish he’d maybe thought of this a FEW months earlier so I could get my ring like, now. 🙂
Post # 5
Ah, if men could only think of things a bit sooner… The good thing is that he understands it now and is saving for your future together. He sounds like a winner 🙂
Post # 6
He sounds so adorable, but I don’t think he’s telling you the truth about the amount of money that he has saved. He’s probably subtracting the amount that he has saved for the ring already to throw you off of your tracks!! But good luck and a Thanksgiving/Christmas proposal sounds so romantic and usually jewelry stores have great sales then anyway
Post # 7
@crebre80 I hope you’re right! But I doubt it. haha. he and I are very open about our finances even though we don’t share them. I think he would’ve had to be pretty sneaky to save any significant amount of money I don’t know about! I am wondering why he even bothered to start shopping now if he’s telling me the truth about the money though (he said he has 2K in the bank, and I’m guessing his budget is 5-6K). Maybe he had no idea how much they cost? Or maybe he’s just excited too and likes shopping even though he can’t buy (although that doesn’t sound too much like him bc he likes BUYING, not shopping).
I am basically trying to take a deep breath and focus on the house. We have plans I’m really excited about. He’s moving in mid-February and then we’ll start shopping. By our 3 year anniversary (Valentines day, cheesy, I know), we will be engaged I’m sure. So I just need to chiiiiiilllll out and think long term. 🙂