Post # 1
My SO and I both own nice homes. He is planning to renovate his kitchen before selling his home and we’ll live in mine once we’re married. My SO is very much a couples guy and usually thinks in terms of “we.” However, when he started planning to renovate his kitchen, he met with a designer and proceeded with plans without asking my input. I understand it is his home, but we currently spend half of our time there and I do 99% of the cooking, so I have a good idea of how the kitchen should function for the future home-buyer. He spends very little time in the kitchen, so the designs are not the most functional (he asked the designer for a pantry with no shelves so there would be a place to store a broom!). Would you be insulted if you weren’t involved in this process or am I over-thinking this issue?
Post # 3
Since he is selling it, no. It makes sense for him to work with a designer to make it appealing for real estate purposes.
Post # 4
It is his house AND you guys are planning to sell it. I wouldn’t worry about it too much. I’m sure the designer will help make it appealing to buyers.
Post # 5
For his information, a pantry with no shelves is called a closet.
But honestly, don’t worry too much about it and trust the designer. It would be a concern if he went ahead with major kitchen renovations on the house that you guys are living in together w/o consulting you first. The sinks might not have faucets (ok I’m sorry I’m done now, I swear! giggle giggle)
Post # 6
I don’t think this is a big deal just because he’s selling it. The renovation is simply to sell it and you being able to function in the kitchen really doesn’t matter. Truth is, it would’ve been in his best interest to consult you since you know more about the kitchen space and probably have great ideas, but at the end of the day, it probably didn’t even occur to him to think about this as “we.” He probably just thought, “This needs to get done. This is how I am going to get it done. 1, 2, 3, done.”