Post # 1
I was just wondering if anyone else had felt quite disappointed at their first dress fitting. I had a bit of a disastrous first fitting today.
Firstly, it’s been about 8 months since I bought my dress and I quite clearly had forgotten some details of it. In particular the bottom of the skirt wasn’t as I recalled at all, it was lace applique rather than beading. Now I can accept that that is my mistake as I don’t think they’d just change the dress.
However even though I was fitted for it and I haven’t changed size the dress was quite a bit too big. And much much too long. So I was still being pinned into it (yet again) and they are charging for alterations which I feel could be avoided if it hadn’t been made too big.
But the biggest disappointment was the lace jacket they’d made . I’d tried one on when I bought the dress and loved the look it created. However they’d forgotten to mention that because the sample I tried on was so big, when it was made to size it would not only be more fitted but much much shorter. So instead of finishing at my waist it finished just under my bust and looked completely wrong and not at all like I’d expected.
To be fair to the shop they are trying to rectify it and are hopefully making a new jacket for me. However it definitely wasn’t the experience I was expecting today and I just felt very disappointed at the end.
I’m sure it will all turn out ok but I’d love to know if anyone else had similar experiences and what happened.
Post # 3
@strawberry84: I haven’t gotten my dress in yet, but I think that I’m going to be in the same boat as you with the dress being way to big. The dress that I tried on was a size 4 and fit too big. I was measured somehow as a size 6 in that particular dress line. I told them that there was no way that I was ordering a dress that was larger than what I had tried on, but was afraid that if I ordered the size 2 then it’d be too small somehow. So, I ordered the size 4 and I know that it’s going to have to be altered. May I also add that it is a corset back, and the 4 had been tied almost as tight as it would go. I don’t get how the sizes can be all over the place. I know, that I’m a little curvy in the hips/butt and small up top, but can’t believe it made that much of a difference. So, as how you feel about the disappointment and charges of alterations, I know exactly how you feel. 🙁 I’m in the same boat. The only thing that I was thinking was that the wedding was 9 months away at that point and would rather was a dress that was too big than too tight. Some days I wish I would have just went against their recommendations and ordered the size 2.
Post # 4
I’m sorry that you had a bad experience in your first fitting. It should be common knowledge that first fittings suck. The dress won’t fit you, you’ll look huge with the extra fabric pinned, and it won’t look like what you tried on. I cried after my first fitting and let it upset me for weeks. Trust me…it gets better.
Post # 5
I hope so. It was just so disappointing. And with this stupid little jacket that was way way too short on top of this enormous dress…. I wish, when you are paying so much for a dress in the first place, they could actually be more accurate with sizings…
Post # 6
I’m sorry! I am having my first fitting in a week but I’ve already tried on the dress. 🙂 I ran right over when they called me to say that it had come in about a month ago. I ordered the smallest size it came in and it’s still too big! They are going to have to take it in on the waist. On the bright side, I won’t have to have it hemmed as it’s the perfect length with my shoes!
Post # 7
dresses do not come made specifically to your measurements… they come in a certain size…. then specifically sized to you at fittings. it sounds to me like a lot of women expect it to fit perfectly upon arrival. that’s just not how it works. it will be fine they’ll fit it to you. and i’m glad they’re fixing the jacket mistake!
Post # 8
We are on the same boat. My 1st fitting was earlier this month, and with all the anticipated hype I was so excited to see the dress I had bought 8 months prior. I was soo worried because the dress I purchased would be completely different from what I tried on. I tried on ivory, I ordered white, which meant that all the beads and sparkle on the dress woulf also be different. I also requested a zipper back instead of corset. So mind you I was so freaken nervous when I tried it on at the first fitting… I knew the size might be a little to big, but seriously it was hanging off of me. Everyone said I lost weight, but I really disagree. The colour was amazing in white though. I was so discouraged though. I have been working so hard with getting into shape, as I am not overweight, just wanted to gain muscle and tone my frame and I got zero compliments from my mother or sister. They basically told me I was too skinny and I should eat cake… I was really really let down when I left. Nonetheless, the seamtress assured me that it will be perfect and I will look beautifu;. SOmetimes you have to put your trust in the seamstress. and most importantly you have to go with your gut. If their is something you do not like about your dress, you need to say something and always always have all the specific details and requests in writing to look back on…
Ok I am done venting…. I am sure your dress will be amazing on your wedding day:)
Best of luck…
Post # 9
Ok, wow – I just odered my dress this last weekend and I am thankful for the bee because when it comes in I won’t expect it to fit perfectly!
Post # 10
My first fitting sucked. I had been told to not get discouraged because the dress would be too big on top, and then all of a sudden they’re struggling to get the zipper up. And I didn’t gain any weight. Super frustrating!
Post # 11
@BooRadley: I WISH PEOPLE HAD TOLD ME THIS!!!! I literally just posted about my experience today on the boards, and I thought I was crazy that I was so disppointed in the way I looked in my dress when I picked it up! I went home and bawled too! I literally thought “oh god, I’m just going to be an ugly bride, whyyyyyy meeeee?!?!” You actually made me feel a lot better. I hope it does look better after the alterations.
@erinbacher: Ugh me too!!! I was so confused that after trying on the sample size that was way too big, she ended up trying to tell me to go up another size! I did end up telling her to at least let me order the sample size (which is still 4 sizes bigger than I normally wear), and surprise, surprise when it came in it’s too big! Is there a reason why they do that?!
Post # 12
@strawberry84: I totally had a similar experience and just posted about it today too. I hope they get it all worked out for you! I’m so worried about alterations costs too, especially considering how much you pay for these dresses!! Let us know how it goes with your jacket. Do you have a picture of when you tried on the sample versus when you tried on your dress to compare the skirts?
Post # 13
Don’t worry hun. First fittings are usually crap. That’s when they iron out all the problem areas, the second will be much much better. Glad they are fixing the short jacket problem!!
Post # 14
So sorry your experience wasn’t great! I’m a seamstress, and I strive to make brides feel as confident as possible by the time they leave, whether I’m taking in or letting out a gown. I’ll go out of my way to do everything I can to make a dress fit any bride. (though of course there are limitations – our bodies are not mannequins!)
As far as samples fitting differently, and ordering sizes, a few thoughts…
1. Sometimes manufacturers size charts are crazy. They run small, they run big. Who knows. Why in the world isn’t there a standard chart, the way there are standard cups and teaspoons and ounces :-p Go figure.
2. Dresses come in a standard length unless you order a custom hem or extra length which is on average $200 extra. They don’t get shorter on smaller sizes or longer on bigger sizes.
3. Dresses are like jeans. The sizes you try on in the store may not be as accurate as the sizing chart for that designer becase they’ve been tried on, stretched out, loosened. When your dress comes in, you’ll be the first body in it, and the goal of the size chart and your salesperson combined are to make sure there is no “Oh-my-god-why-is-this-too-tight-the-sample-was-perfect” type disaster. Taking in is oh so much easier than letting out, because manufacturers don’t consistenly leave lots of extra fabric in the seams. Its hit or miss.
P.s. for those who’ve just ordered their dresses, I’m happy to to try and answer any questions you might have about future alterations! 🙂
Post # 15
I had always thought that when I was measured, the dress was made to fit my exact measurements so the dress was actually made custom to fit me from the designer. I always thought that’s y it takes months and months. For a designer to take 8 months to build a generic size 10 gown, to me, seemed like way too long, but alas, I had no idea how it works. My largest measurement was a size 10 hips and boobs with a size 4 waist. It will not fit when it arrives bec the 10 was a bit loose even in the hips and boobs. It will take a few fittings to get it perfect. Y they can’t make a dress 38, 28, 38 is beyond me when they r already making one 38, 34, 38 from scratch anyway. Or whatever the measures were, I dunno I just making up numbers.
Post # 16
I agree, not sure why when it costs so much and takes so lng the dresses still come in standard sizes and lengths. My boyfriend’s bespoke suit cost less than my dress, was made to measure, only took about 6 weeks and when it arrived fit him almost perfectly. Grrr….
The other thing that really upset me about the fitting was that the seamstress was quite rude about my shoes. I didnt want v high heels and was struggling to find anything i liked. I ended up buying a plain ivory pump with a 1.5 inch heel for £30. I then found some beaded lace trim (which perfectly matches my dress) and appliqued it onto the top of my shoes. They look great and I love them. When i took them out in the shop everyone was realy complementary until I mentioned I’d done them myself, I then got some odd looks from the seamstress and assistant. The lace bottom of my dress then caught on the beading of my shoe. The seamstress then said
“your DIY shoes arent working. You’ll have to take the trimming off.”
i said i can’t take it off, I’ve stuck it to the shoes and it will ruin them. She shrugged and then implied I’d just have to get some more shoes then. I then pointed out that maybe if the dress wasn’t 7 inches too long Iwouldnt have that problem and I was keeping my shoes.
oh well, I’m just trying to be hopeful it will all be sorted out in time…