(Closed) So disappointed in my bridal party

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
46414 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Consider your vent heard.

Post # 5
8882 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way. Planning a wedding is hard enough, then add all the drama. I really feel for you. *Hugs*

Post # 7
242 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Legallyblondiebride:  I already told you I would email these girls! Haha.  You could put an end to this nonsense by kicking them out (or recruiting someone semi-mean to do it for you) Laughing

Post # 8
3943 posts
Honey bee

@Legallyblondiebride:  I hear ya!

I love my girls, but the last few days I have been very disappointed and frustrated. I feel like I am bending over backwards to make this easy on them, and it’s just one thing after the other.

I feel your pain!

Post # 9
494 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

That does sound annoying.  After all, it’s not like you’re asking them to take you on some wild trip to Vegas.  You just want them to care and it sounds like two of them just don’t really give a crap.  I can understand why your feelings are hurt.  

Post # 10
1735 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Sorry your friends are being so crappy ((hugs))

Post # 11
411 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’ve been following your bridesmaid drama and I really feel for you … it sounds like these girls regret saying yes as much as you regret asking them, but nobody wants to be the one to say “maybe we should just call this BS off already”.  It does suck that the people who were supposedly your best friends and who should have been your biggest cheerleaders are instead being like big heavy anchors you’re dragging behind you. Makes me realize how lucky I am that my one non-family bridesmaid is so into it I actually have to tell her to chill out before she pops an artery!

So, no flaming here … just positive thoughts. I’ll even stay away from a period joke Wink

Post # 12
1736 posts
Bumble bee


I know that’s what you need to hear and I am not afraid to say it! 🙂 I hope you find a way to de-stress, relax and unwind!!

Post # 13
2416 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think some people just make bad bridesmaids. Seriously. Some people don’t get it.

Also, I don’t think most people realize this until they are having problems like yours but, not only should your BM’s be your best friends, but they also (especially your MOH) need to be good planners because ultimately, no matter how low-key or non-bridezilla you are, there are still some responsibility that your bridal party has (even if it’s just to help with the shower/bachelorette.)

But it does sound like they suck, so I feel for you. Are you one of the first people to get married? I feel like the ones who have been to more weddings/have more married friends tend to understand what being in a bridal party entails more than people who don’t have the experience.

Post # 14
9687 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

((HUGS)) So sorry you’re having to go through this, girlie!  Don’t forget, Mondays SUCK and that always seems to make everything seem worse. 

Don’t cry!  We are all in this together here on the Bee and we’re here for you, so vent away!

I can’t wait for this evening, I’m so tired right now, so I know how you feel in that sense.  I am so glad I’m not having to put up with all the bullcrap you’re having to go through, because I’m not having any attendants. 

Nobody should treat you that way, you’re too sweet for that.  I think they’re all just jealous bitches, lol.  You deserve way better!

Post # 15
774 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I had problems with my bms (my sisters!!) and I basically told them, this is how it is and if you dont like it tough titties. With events such as weddings can bring out the worst in people, and its not always the bride!

But the shame is on them. They should be mature enough to realize they need to pitch in and help. Im sure you didnt force them to be BM’s, and they made the decision to be up their with you on your special day. I’m not saying fire them…but if there someone else who could do it? Just pay for their dresses and move on? Its a tough situation. Your not a bridezilla!! At all, but with planning my own wedding and reading about others, I see why girls have melt downs!

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