- 4 months ago
I am so sorry you are going through this. I had something similar happen to me recently that I actually posted about a few months ago! I’m also 31. I was dating someone for 7 months and I felt like everything was perfect as well. We traveled together, I spent thanksgiving with his family, we had the same sense of humor and were basically always laughing. After 7 months he still hadn’t told me he loved me yet and it was starting to weigh on me so I brought it up. He skirted around it and said he loved our relationship and everything is great. Pulls away from me for a week and when I finally ask what’s wrong he also said “something is missing” and then proceeded to tell me his ex girlfriend texted him recently and he still has feelings for her and has our entire relationship. I was absolutely blindsided and heartbroken. It could be possible it’s somerhing similar, maybe there is someone in his past he’s not over but didn’t want to tell you and hurt you more. Maybe he is scared of commitment – maybe the moving in talk freaked him out. My relationship was so amazing until I finally brought up love and commitment. Some men are like that. I wish I had the answers and I’m so sorry because I was just in your shoes a month ago. It still hurts but it’s better to know now than a year from now that he’s not all in. If you ever want to talk more about it or are feeling sad, send me a private message and we can talk more. You will be okay!!!