(Closed) So, do I cancel everything pay my dad the deposits back and elope or suck it up?

posted 10 years ago in Emotional
Post # 62
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

It sounds like it’s their party and not yours.  I would pay them back and have a very small wedding with close friends and family, and not give them an ounce of control.    I would also make sure they know the boundaries for when you are married too.  

So sorry you are dealing with that.   What a shame.

Post # 63
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Oh, I just saw this was an old post that was bumped.   I wonder what the OP decided?

Post # 64
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

woahhhhh ……. got thru it and i thort – u poor thing!!! and i thort my mum was bad!!!

Post # 65
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Instead of eloping, which might really send her into tailspin, why don’t you postpone?

Sock away as much money as you can for one year and plan a less elaborate wedding. The $40k comes with strings that clearly aren’t acceptable.

I have admit that while I was reading, I imagined a socialite mother telling her debutant daughter what to wear. Icky.

Post # 66
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Wannabee

What ended up happening?  I hope you had a wonderful and drama free day.  I found your post when I googled “mom insists on tacky wedding stuff” because my mom is pulling the same bs.  She keeps playing the ‘we won’t pay for it unless you…’ card so I told her that we don’t need her money.  Her idea of a wedding is how it was when she got married in the 70s, and the fact that I work in the business doesn’t sway her because there’s no possible way I could know what I’m talkIng about.

I’ve planned quite a few friends’ weddings and the bridesmaids always buy their own dresses.  I agree with the posters above.  If you can get by without letting her pay for anything, that would be the way to go.

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