Post # 62
It sounds like it’s their party and not yours. I would pay them back and have a very small wedding with close friends and family, and not give them an ounce of control. I would also make sure they know the boundaries for when you are married too.
So sorry you are dealing with that. What a shame.
Post # 63
Oh, I just saw this was an old post that was bumped. I wonder what the OP decided?
Post # 64
woahhhhh ……. got thru it and i thort – u poor thing!!! and i thort my mum was bad!!!
Post # 65
Instead of eloping, which might really send her into tailspin, why don’t you postpone?
Sock away as much money as you can for one year and plan a less elaborate wedding. The $40k comes with strings that clearly aren’t acceptable.
I have admit that while I was reading, I imagined a socialite mother telling her debutant daughter what to wear. Icky.
Post # 66
What ended up happening? I hope you had a wonderful and drama free day. I found your post when I googled “mom insists on tacky wedding stuff” because my mom is pulling the same bs. She keeps playing the ‘we won’t pay for it unless you…’ card so I told her that we don’t need her money. Her idea of a wedding is how it was when she got married in the 70s, and the fact that I work in the business doesn’t sway her because there’s no possible way I could know what I’m talkIng about.
I’ve planned quite a few friends’ weddings and the bridesmaids always buy their own dresses. I agree with the posters above. If you can get by without letting her pay for anything, that would be the way to go.