(Closed) SO doesn't want a wedding… Anyone else go through this?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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506 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Mine didn’t want a big wedding for sure, but he was ok with the little one I wanted. We both wanted to keep it simple and as low stress as possible! I’m sure you can compromise to make it better for him, but not leave out your important guests. 

Post # 4
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2398 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@floridagirlblue:  I agree. I think that many brides tend to make a wedding about them and what others think of them and forget why they are getting married or to whom. 

Post # 6
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3092 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think we’re opposite.  I want to pull out of the big/medium/smallish wedding that we’re having all of the time…he wants us to have it and enjoy “Our” night…I’m like yeah our night that we’re spending thousands of dollars on everyone else but ourselves…yeah right!! LOL…but he comforts me that not matter what, no matter the cost, how many show up, how good or bad the DJ or food, and of course if not a single soul shows…it WILL be OUR night and it will be one of the greatest!  Then I go on weddingbee and look for projects 🙂

Post # 10
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9917 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

How much input has he had about the details?  Is he anxious in general?

 

Post # 11
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1262 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Haha I feel like the opposite. I would love a cutesy backyard wedding with only our closest family members but he is totally into the over the top glam $50k wedding concept. Clearly compromising will have to be done.

Post # 12
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2398 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@MissCT:  Awe I see, well my Darling Husband first was nervous about spending money that we could use as a nest egg but slowly he started to get excited. Maybe if you include him in some of the decisions, he will feel better. 

Post # 14
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5958 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

I kind of get it, if you spend money on something and it doesn’t go right it’s a waste of it….especially since you only get one shot at a wedding.  And if it’s just about you guys getting married, it shouldn’t matter how big or small it is…..if it were me, I would round up my golden cows, (the things I would die if I didn’t get to have) ask him to do the same and see if you couldn’t find a compromise.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@MissCT:  I would say ok, if you dont care than let me get to work and do your thing. Like I said, it could go two ways. He will eventually come around and you will be happy or you will get to do it all your way. 

Sometimes if the Fiance get to involved, it could drive a girl crazy. lol 

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