- 5 years ago
One of my best friends is getting married next month. Her wedding has been overpriced, underplanned, procrastinated, and so incredibly stressful. To be honest, at this point, I am so over hearing about her wedding. Some people may take that as jealousy, or bad friendship, but its neither. I simply can’t handle the emotional stress that has come with being apart of this event.
First of all, this wedding is out of their means, like way past their financial abilities. They are THOUSANDS of dollars in debt. This would be fine, but hearing about it is overwhelming. It’s not something kept to themselves, everyone is involved. Everything for this wedding has been extravagant and overbudget.
The bridal shower alone was about 5k -ish. Which was planned by the bride herself, because “she knows how she likes things and if anyone would have thrown it, she wouldn’t have liked it?”
The bridesmaids costs are reasonable, but everything has been so last minute. It’s just so frustrating, because the bride takes her frustrations out on her bridal party for not being supportive or helpful; yet, she only wants things done her way.
The same with the bachelorette party. It was placed on hold due to some relationship issues that were happening with her fiance and now it’s too late to get the rooms where we had originally planned. So immediately the bride steps in and strips the bridal party of planning her party. Which was kind of hurtful because I had taken the time to send invitations, create and itinerary, and plan her party.
I have been very supportive, even with personal things that I’m going through, but at this point I’m almost just completely fed up. I love my friend, but all of this is causing me to want to place some distance between us. The lack of logic, empathy, and reason, are blowing my mind. I don’t feel like this is someone I know and I, also, don’t believe that a wedding gives someone reason to act like nothing in the world matters.
I don’t know what to do at this point. I’m struggling with what I feel is the right thing and sucking it up to be a good friend. Advice?
- This topic was modified 5 years ago by botheredbridesmaid.