(Closed) So Embarassed! Busted For Being On WB By BF!!!

posted 9 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
Member
665 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Lol… my SO knows about it. When I need to vent, I come here… he says he can tell when I get on here – that hes going to block it from me! haha… I guess he doesn’t get that this place helps w/ comiseration when I sometimes need it.

Post # 5
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665 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I believe there is nothing more important in relationships than honesty and openess. I can’t stand secrets or those things left unsaid… whether they should be or not, I just can’t do it… not w/ him at least. I think you should go ahead and discuss what it is that brought you to this website in the first place – the website cannot be the real issue. If you’re here, then you’re probably ready for that next step of commitment – the size of an engagement ring is regardless, if thats not something actually important to you. If it happens to be, its okay to talk about price ranges, styles… I think at least. From my perspective, it’ll be on my finger for the rest of my life and it has to look good! Not everyone feels the same way – so you shouldn’t be afraid to talk to him about how you feel in regards to the ring. We’ve done ring and diamond shopping together… I picked out my dream ring and it is more on the expensive side so I have to wait for it. But the thing is, we both knew that and were okay with it. We know how we each stand and have talked time and time again about everything…

In my opinion, the days of guys just popping the question are over. I think if you’re ready to make that commitment, then you have to have THE conversation – especially to see where you both stand. Have you? If not, somebody has to bring it up… ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 6
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175 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

Aww. My SO knows about these boards, but doesn’t read them. Actually I posted our engagement pictures without telling me (maybe I should’ve, haha), but he was excited when we got our first comment. So I don’t think he minds.

Post # 7
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10218 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

lol M knows all about it.. he teases and asks me when i’m going to get off the blog with my girls and do xyz…

@curly: i usually bring up threads like that to M to ask him what he thinks etc, and we have great conversations about it. he understands that i should love it because i’ll be wearing it from now until it passes on to our kids’ kids.  and he really likes that.  i think he never understood why i wanted input into it until then though.

Post # 8
Member
7975 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Hahahah…. J totally knows I’m on here, although he may not realize that when we’re not together, I’m on here for HOURS every day ๐Ÿ˜‰

Yesterday I showed him the latest waiting list and was like, “See? I’m not the only one!” He just rolled his eyes and was like, “At least I know you’re not trying to manipulate me into getting married.” hehe

Post # 9
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4566 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Mr. KM knows I’m on here, but he doesn’t know how much or… why. He knows I want to blog for it, and that I love it dearly but past that he doesn’t really care.

Post # 10
Hostess
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

My husband laughs at me for still being on here!  I think just giving him an idea of why you are on here so it doesn’t freak him out would be a good idea.

And I agree with mandalee that now people have conversations when they want to get married, it doesn’t just happen with no foresight at all.

Post # 11
Member
617 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Manfriend knows I’m on here, and that I’m on here a lot. LOL. He knows about the waiting list and I read him posts and we talk about them. It’s pretty funny. Yesterday he blurted out of no where that I will be crossed off by next weekend. I just thought it was funny he said ‘crossed off.’

Post # 12
Member
1154 posts
Bumble bee

Weddingbee is nothing to be ashamed off!  (Let’s ignore that I used to close out the window and erase search terms…). 

I do get “sniffy” when guys say things like “they should just be happy someone wants to marry them”.  On one hand yeah I agree that engagement rings are much more important to some women than I can understand or relate to.  On the other hand…

1. Noo!  I am not happy that someone wants to marry me.  I am awesome and I’m sure lots of people would/do want to marry me.  I am happy that the guy I love and want to marry wants to marry me.

2. Does he think he should just be happy that someone is willing to marry him and thus gets no say in anything else ever?

3. Would he get upset if you said yes to the proposal and agreed to marry him but refused to wear the ring?  By his logic he should be so thrilled you said yes he shouldn’t care if you think the ring is ugly and never want to put it on. 

 

 

Post # 13
Member
131 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@Curlydreamer: I dont think you should even bring it up anymore. Afterall, hes a guy, he has alot of other things to worry about, so Im sure he has already forgotten about it.

Post # 15
Member
3124 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Curly – he sounds defensive.. but as long as you’re not pesting him about a proposal, I don’t see the harm in being on the boards. In fact, if being here is preventing you from being anxious with him, then he should be happy about it!  Let him know that you are interested in marriage but that it’s important both of you feel that way and you don’t want him to feel pressured, so you go chat it out with likeminded bees.  He shoudl get it and appreciate it then.  If not, then you might have to smack some sense into him as a last resort ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 16
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1514 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

My husband gives me a hard time for still being on here.  At least I have an excuss now that I’m one of the Hostesses. ๐Ÿ™‚  Just explain that it’s not neccissarliy for the wedding planning and more the “girl” time.  He still won’t get it, but whenever I explain it as a “girl thing” he leaves me alone.

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