(Closed) So embarrassed, how to tell a vendor I thought it was another person???!!

posted 5 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
123 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@mspurple:  you don’t have to tell her…. just say you decide to go with another person…. you haven’t signed anything yet, so you’re within your right to change your mind. 🙂

Post # 4
285 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Glen Sanders Mansion

I had the opposite problem. I emailed a vendor at the very beginning of planning, and he sent me his priCe list. Months later, he emailed me asking if tonight was a good night to call. I said thanks but I had already booked a videographer. He sent me a scathing emailing about wasting his time, and why would I ask to speak with him if I had already booked someone.  turns out he had received an email from another bride with the same first name the night before (damn auto fill with emails!). He was super Apologetic but it still left a bad taste in my mouth, he was way too upset about “losing business” for my liking. 


I agree with the above poster, say thank you so much but I’ve decided to go with someone else.  I have to do this with a florist tomorrow and I am dreading it. 

Post # 5
2662 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@mspurple:  Aww. That’s just one of those mistakes that you have to shake off. You don’t need to tell the photographer with whom you met anything except that you decided to go another route. I would tell her soon because she might be holding that date for you even if it’s only in pencil. 

Post # 8
790 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I personally don’t expect people to tell me as no answer is the answer in my eyes. If they want to hire me they will contact me back and hire me. I dont chase people and hound them. They either want me or they dont. Period.

Post # 9
1966 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I would just say you’re going with someone else. No need for details. 

Post # 10
11234 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Haha, this happened to us, too. I totally thought our photographer shot a wedding for an old coworker. Similar company names, similar styles. So I’m contacting her, and I’m like, “You shot a wedding for a coworker, [bride] and [groom, blah blah…”

Nope! Not her! She HAD shot a wedding that my friend did makeup for, though, which is how I found her like a year before we got engaged, and I loved her work and wanted to book her.

Post # 11
9142 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@mspurple:  Send her an email letting her know that you chose another photographer.  Send it ASAP so she will stop contacting you.

Post # 12
344 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

That’s funny. It depends on the photog. Some are less popular and may hound you. I never follow up with a booking myself. No point. If people want me, they book me at the meeting. Maybe just a quick emailing saying thanks so much but we booked someone else. 

Post # 15
676 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@mspurple:  The same thing happened to me, except instead it was one was named Nicki and the other Nickie… everything else the same and same website title with just a slight difference. And both work in the same area of the same state… it seems one might be hoping to get business based on the other’s name and reputation. Anyway, I was in contact with the wrong one, but then just “fell out of touch” once I realized it was the wrong one. I hadn’t signed a contract or committed her to the date.

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