(Closed) So embarrassed, I posted this in the wrong area. Anyone else in the “gray area”?

posted 9 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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858 posts
Busy bee

I felt this way while waiting for Fiance to have the money for the ring(he wanted to pay cash for it). We had talked about when/how we wanted to get married. Started looking at houses and saving for it. We didnt tell anyone because we wanted to wait for the ring

Post # 4
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2892 posts
Sugar bee

I like to take gray and wear it. 🙂 We both wanted to be homeowners one day, so I bought a house. No ring, marriage wasn’t part of the purchase. If the relationship ended I’d still have a beautiful home, not a bad “thanks for playing prize.” I got questions left and right about whether or not it meant we were getting married. In the end, his name isn’t on the mortgage. If I bought a car no one would ask if he’s planning on putting a ring on it.

When things got serious and he started looking for rings, he included me in the process and we told my family that we’d be getting married in the next year because, well, that’s what is going to happen. They are still waiting with me for it to become official. But no one doubts that’s where it is going.

I can respect waiting till things are in place and it’s absolutely official. I think it depends on the relationship and the people involved. Our families know both of us are pretty backwards in the way we approach things but know it always works for the best. They trust us, which is all I can ask for. 🙂

Congrats on the house! That’s like a once in a lifetime opportunity!

Post # 5
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2689 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I’m right there with you. We had the choice to move or get engaged and we chose to move.

Post # 6
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538 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Wonderful: Right there with you! I like to think that we are unofficially engaged.. we went  ring looking in the begining of the year and have already pretty much decided what type of wedding we want to have. We don’t plan to get married until 2013, we want to buy a home first. I feel engaged but he says we’ll be engaged when he proposes with a ring.

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