Post # 1
So I returned to work back at the end of December, and therefore have to pump at the office. Unfortunately I have to do it fairly often in order to have enough milk for daycare, but I usually have a pretty consistent schedule and haven’t had any issues up until today. Well, I had a meeting push back my last pump of the day. I had asked a co-worker a question and he said he would go find out and walked away. I assumed it would be a while and I needed to pump pretty badly.
My office is pretty private, and the door locks. It has a glass wall that faces the rest of the office but it’s frosted except for a bit at the top and bottom, so you can see my feet if you walk by but that’s about it. So anyways, I started pumping and was about halfway through when suddenly I got a knock on the door. I went to turn the pump off and put everything down & cover up so I could answer the door…but while I’m doing that the co-worker got on his tip toes and peeked through the unfrosted glass at the top to see if I was in there. Wellll…of course I’m standing there with my boob half out and we make eye contact and he realizes what he’s seeing and gets this horrified look on his face and runs off…
Now I’m sitting in my office…basically wanting to cry I’m so embarrassed. I don’t know if I should say something to this guy to diffuse the situation…I feel like I really don’t have anything to apologize for, this is the designated space I’m supposed to pump in per company policy…but I just feel so, so weird and uncomfortable 🙁 Has anyone else had to deal with this kind of awkwardness??
Post # 2
I would just ignore the situation and move on personally! Not like he’s never seen a boob before 🙂 lol
Post # 3
So, a couple of months back I was at the copier and realized my maxi dress had torn RIGHT AT THE BUTT….exposing my cheeky underwear and when I walked, you could totally see most of my butt. I had walked in front of my boss & several co-workers. Not sure if they saw but I was mortified. It took me a little while to get over it but no one said anything lol I personally wouldn’t bring it up.
Post # 4
Oh no. I presume he’s probably mortified too. I mean, it sounds like he turned away pretty fast. I don’t think you owe him an apology at all. I would maybe make a joke like hey, oops, let us ever speak of it again then move on like it never happened. Mayyyybe get a do not disturb thingy for the door. Sorry that happened though.
Post # 5
lula0508 : I think this is one of those things that makes you want to cry now, but in a short time you’ll be laughing about. Maybe that guy will learn his lesson not to go peeking into rooms with closed doors!
Post # 6
OMG!!! You clearly have NOTHING to feel bad about – if anything HE’S the one probably feeling terrible and mortified that HIS thoughtlessness has put the two of you in this position.
I would probably finish pumping and then go straight to his office and make a semi joke out of the whole thing for closure’s sake.
I think if no one addresses it, THAT would be awkward, potentially inceasingly so…
And him being the guy, he probably doesn’t feel that he CAN address it without opening himself up to HR concerns.
Post # 7
lula0508 : I can understand how you feel but it was an accident and I’m sure he has learnt his lesson not to look in gaps of windows ever again. Just pretend it didnt happen and I’m sure he will do the same.
I get you though… I accidentally flashed my father in law. They live in another state and we often go stay with them for a visit. They have a period home with doors that are original and have a habit of swinging open when you’ve shut them. Well I came home from the day out, shut our bedroom door turned around to face the bed and get changed. We’d gotten rained on so I changed out of my clothing plus my damp bra. Low and behold the bloody door unbeknownst to Me decided to open itself just as my Father-In-Law walked past. I’m sure he accidentally copped an eye full of side on boob!! It took a while for me to look him in the face on that trip. 😞
Post # 8
I totally disagree with anyone implying the guy did anything wrong. Thankfully, it doesn’t sound like you think that. From what you wrote, he was doing you a favor by finding an answer to a question you had. He came right back and was surprised to see your door closed, so he peeked in to see if you were there or he had to go track you down. I don’t see anything terrible, thoughtless, or HR worthy in what you wrote, but that’s just my opinion.
Also, you have nothing to apologize for, either. Just an awkward experience that couldn’t be avoided.
Post # 9
Please don’t apologize, bee!! You didn’t do anything wrong. I don’t think the guy did anything wrong either and he probably feels absolutely mortified too. I’d ask HR if there’s a way to block off that unfrosted portion somehow. Seems like something they should do if mamas in the office will be breastfeeding in there.
Post # 10
lula0508 : You nor your coworker are in the wrong. I would just let it be.
HR needs to find a way to make your office completely private or provide another pumping space so this doesn’t happen again.
Post # 11
You FABULOUS MOM you!
In my opinion as a former nursing mother who had it EASY, you gals who undertake to pump so that your sweet babies can thrive in the way only YOU CAN PROVIDE, are the BRAVEST, STRONGEST, DEAREST women on earth!
You have NOTHING to be embarrassed about!
I hope your coworker is PROUD to work with you. He has nothing to be embarrassed about either.
Carry on, head and bosom held high!!!
Post # 12
I’m totally a weirdo and never know what to say in those type situations… so I’d be probably make a very uncomfortable joke like, “well they certainly don’t pay you enough to see all of THAT!”
and then crawl under my desk and die.
But no, you’re definitely not in the wrong! I bet he doesn’t do that again.
Post # 13
I totally get you being embarrassed, but he’s the one who peeked in the window. I bet he’ll never do that again!
ETA: Also it’s probably not the first time he’s seen a boob. It’s just skin and a nipple. Nothing to be embarrassed about.
Post # 14
Sorry that happened, but hopefully as breastfeeding / pumping become more and more normalized, this won’t be something that you or other women need to be embarassed about! He probably feels like a dick (and I’m sure he’ll never peek again), so don’t you apologize or feel badly.
Get one of these to hang on your door?! Haha.
Post # 15
- Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre
Just ignore the situation it was awkward for both of you