So embarrassed right now aaahhhgg

posted 2 years ago in Babies
Post # 2
2552 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I would just ignore the situation and move on personally! Not like he’s never seen a boob before 🙂 lol 

Post # 3
1446 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

So, a couple of months back I was at the copier and realized my maxi dress had torn RIGHT AT THE BUTT….exposing my cheeky underwear and when I walked, you could totally see most of my butt. I had walked in front of my boss & several co-workers. Not sure if they saw but I was mortified. It took me a little while to get over it but no one said anything lol I personally wouldn’t bring it up.

Post # 4
4866 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Oh no. I presume he’s probably mortified too. I mean, it sounds like he turned away pretty fast. I don’t think you owe him an apology at all. I would maybe make a joke like hey, oops, let us ever speak of it again then move on like it never happened.  Mayyyybe get a do not disturb thingy for the door. Sorry that happened though. 

Post # 5
8783 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

lula0508 :  I think this is one of those things that makes you want to cry now, but in a short time you’ll be laughing about. Maybe that guy will learn his lesson not to go peeking into rooms with closed doors!

Post # 6
2531 posts
Sugar bee

OMG!!! You clearly have NOTHING to feel bad about – if anything HE’S the one probably feeling terrible and mortified that HIS thoughtlessness has put the two of you in this position. 

I would probably finish pumping and then go straight to his office and make a semi joke out of the whole thing for closure’s sake.

I think if no one addresses it, THAT would be awkward, potentially inceasingly so… 

And him being the guy, he probably doesn’t feel that he CAN address it without opening himself up to HR concerns.

Post # 7
4498 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

lula0508 :  I can understand how you feel but it was an accident and I’m sure he has learnt  his lesson not to look in gaps of windows ever again. Just pretend it didnt happen and I’m sure he will do the same.

I get you though… I accidentally flashed my father in law. They live in another state and we often go stay with them for a visit. They have a period home with doors that are original and have a habit of swinging open when you’ve shut them. Well I came home from the day out, shut our bedroom door turned around to face the bed and get changed. We’d gotten rained on so I changed out of my clothing plus my damp bra. Low and behold the bloody door unbeknownst to Me decided to open itself just as my Father-In-Law walked past. I’m sure he accidentally copped an eye full of side on boob!! It took a while for me to look him in the face on that trip. 😞

Post # 8
648 posts
Busy bee

I totally disagree with anyone implying the guy did anything wrong. Thankfully, it doesn’t sound like you think that. From what you wrote, he was doing you a favor by finding an answer to a question you had. He came right back and was surprised to see your door closed, so he peeked in to see if you were there or he had to go track you down. I don’t see anything terrible, thoughtless, or HR worthy in what you wrote, but that’s just my opinion.

Also, you have nothing to apologize for, either. Just an awkward experience that couldn’t be avoided.

Post # 9
9138 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Please don’t apologize, bee!! You didn’t do anything wrong. I don’t think the guy did anything wrong either and he probably feels absolutely mortified too. I’d ask HR if there’s a way to block off that unfrosted portion somehow. Seems like something they should do if mamas in the office will be breastfeeding in there.

Post # 10
657 posts
Busy bee

lula0508 :  You nor your coworker are in the wrong.  I would just let it be. 


HR needs to find a way to make your office completely private or provide another pumping space so this doesn’t happen again. 

Post # 11
2513 posts
Sugar bee


In my opinion as a former nursing mother who had it EASY, you gals who undertake to pump so that your sweet babies can thrive in the way only YOU CAN PROVIDE, are the BRAVEST, STRONGEST, DEAREST women on earth!

You have NOTHING to be embarrassed about!

I hope your coworker is PROUD to work with you. He has nothing to be embarrassed about either.

Carry on, head and bosom held high!!!

Post # 12
2020 posts
Buzzing bee

I’m totally a weirdo and never know what to say in those type situations… so I’d be probably make a very uncomfortable joke like, “well they certainly don’t pay you enough to see all of THAT!”
 and then crawl under my desk and die.


But no, you’re definitely not in the wrong! I bet he doesn’t do that again.

Post # 13
928 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I totally get you being embarrassed, but he’s the one who peeked in the window. I bet he’ll never do that again! 

ETA: Also it’s probably not the first time he’s seen a boob. It’s just skin and a nipple. Nothing to be embarrassed about. 

Post # 14
2005 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

Sorry that happened, but hopefully as breastfeeding / pumping become more and more normalized, this won’t be something that you or other women need to be embarassed about!  He probably feels like a dick (and I’m sure he’ll never peek again), so don’t you apologize or feel badly.

Get one of these to hang on your door?!  Haha.


Post # 15
1978 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre

Just ignore the situation it was awkward for both of you 

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