Post # 1
My (male) friend recently got engaged and is having a party to celebrate. I work near the party decorations store so I offered to collect the balloons he ordered on my way home from work.
This morning I posted on Facebook about traffic jams due to bad weather which made me late for work, and my friend replied “Will you be delayed on the way home too? Shall I arrange for someone else to drive into town this afternoon and collect the balloons for our engagement party? XX”
I saw his reply at lunchtime… and a million other replies from acquaintances and distant family who thought that since he mentioned “our” engagement party then he must be marrying me! People who I rarely see (like family in Australia or old work colleagues or college friends), who don’t know my SO and just presumed that the guy posting about “our” engagement party was my fiance. What’s worse is that some of the posts said things like “Congratulations – it’s about time!”, “So happy for you, we thought he’d never get around to it!”, “And I thought you were going to be left on the shelf! Just kidding, congrats cousin”, etc.
So I had to post an incredibly embarrassing reply where I said “Thanks for your good wishes, but when Adam referred to “our” engagement party he means him and his wife-to-be. I’m just a friend of Adam’s who is bringing the balloons to his party.” It’s clear from the replies that people think I’m left on the shelf and my SO has been dragging his feet. So now I just feel sad and embarrassed, and kinda upset because people were genuinely wishing me well for my future marriage but nobody even wants to marry me :'(
Post # 3
oh my….this is so awkward! Fist of all I hate when people reply “it’s about time” or “finally!” when people get engaged. I think it is very rude. I feel ya girl, this is a tough one but you handled it VERY WELL! Much better than I would have!
Post # 4
Don’t be embarassed, people are silly and should never say FINALLY and all that crap! your time will come 🙂
Post # 5
I would feel embarassed too! 🙁 Have you talked to your SO about this? I wonder what he would say… I would completely break down! This is the part where a bee will tell you that everyone moves at their own speed and you shouldn’t judge the success of your relationship based on other relationships. It’s just a lot easier said than done when people talk about you being left on the shelf- that’s so mean!! Waiting would be so much easier if there wasn’t so much judgment tethered to how long it takes for a couple to be engaged. *Big Hug*
I hope that you get to have a REAL enagagement post on facebook soon!!
Post # 6
Aw boo. 🙁
A few people made the “it’s about time” comment when I got engaged. So, so rude.
I bet the people who posted those things are having a “foot in mouth” moment though.
Post # 7
Awww I’m so sorry, some people… But you know what? THEY should feel embarassed not you! This is their mistake not yours! And people should never say finally to someone when they get engaged, that is so rude to me! Nothing but happy congratulations should be said. Your time will come and then your friend bettrer be buying you balloons!! Hugs!
Post # 8
I would be embarrassed too. I could see that happening to me, I’m the only person in my family who is not married/with kids…even my younger brother is engaged lol. So, comments have already been made and I’m sure in the same situation (or when I do get engaged), they will all be saying the same thing. I feel for you!!
Post # 10
I’m sorry! That really sucks. I’d definitely delete that post if you haven’t already…