(Closed) So- everyone gets to see the bride in her undies?

posted 8 years ago in Beauty
Post # 17
1044 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Like a PP said- my friend stayed in her track suit until it was time. There was a teeny bathroom where she slipped on her dress. Maid/Matron of Honor and S-MOB helped her lace it up after it was on.

It’s your wedding day, do what makes you feel comfortable!

Post # 18
9541 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

If you really want to be alone then do it and people will just have to get over it. If you’re just worried about them seeing you in undies then wear a robe or some other covering. Also, as a note, corsets can get pretty uncomfy over a long day so I wouldn’t plan on putting it on until just before putting on the dress so you’re in it for less of the day. But if you’re used to wearing a corset and will be comfy, then more power to you!

Post # 19
112 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m pretty stoked to get ready with all of my girls and mothers and whoever pops their head into our hotel room.  I’d imagine your order of getting ready is correct but I’ll wear either a robe or easy sundress or something.  I also know that there is absolutely no way I can get myself into my dress alone but I also have a bunch of sisters and lived in a sorority house so I’ve been used to no privacy while dressing for awhile! ๐Ÿ™‚  That being said, I also believe you have every right to do whatever you please on your wedding morning and if being alone is what you want, go for it!  If anyone gives you trouble just say that you feel like it’s important to have private time to reflect on the commitment you’re going to make and I think they’d leave you be!

Post # 20
2966 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

i just had my 3 bridesmaids, my mom, my aunt (who was in and out the whole time) and the photographer (she offered to leave while i got my dress on, but i was fine with her staying). i wore a tank top and capris until it was time for me to get dressed. i wasn’t concerned with everyone seeing me in my bra and undies- we were all girls, we have the same thing.

but i wouldn’t have wanted any more people than that. i wanted my getting ready time to be fun, but low-key and quiet.

Post # 21
7899 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

I didn’t put on my underthings until just before I put on my dress. I had my hair done, then my makeup, then the photographers stepped out of the room while I put on my undies and came back in after I’d stepped into the dress but my maids hadn’t zipped it up yet. PS, you will likely need help getting your dress on, especially with a full face of makeup on.

Post # 22
9800 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

haha…well I am not planning on sitting around in just my underwear.  Of course I’m only planning on undies underneath my dress so I couldn’t imagine sitting around in a corset/garter/thigh highs all morning.  Probably just a button down and shorts!  But yeah…if I was going to be in my underwear only I’d be waaaay uncomfortable!  And probably cold! Wink

You should do what you want though.  Honestly, I think it would be more comfortable to put on all your under things on after hair and makeup…just because I imagine it would be more comfy.  Though generally the point of BMs is to do things like help you get into the dress and button/lace/zip you up.  Would you do this yourself?  Or do you have a easy dress to get into?

I want to drink some mimosas and have my Bridesmaid or Best Man and mothers there so I am excited about them being in the room!  The ones helping me to get ready will probably see me in my undies though…that is how it goes with getting into a lot of these dresses.  I wouldn’t let anyone else just walk in!  But that’s easier to do in a hotel room.

Post # 24
9950 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Getting ready and the time being photographed (and therefore more of a “public” event) is a relatively NEW custom / tradition

Certainly something that wasn’t done back in the 1980s when I got married the first time.

There were only “reflective” pics of me and my Mom when she put my Grandmother’s Pearls around my neck.

In fact, ALL the Bridal Party got ready at their Hotel (I was at my Parent’s House) and we only met up when we were all ready to go for some formal pics before getting in the Limos / Sedan Cars and heading off to the Ceremony Site.


Honestly you can do IMO whatever you are comfortable with.  Get ready alone, with a close family member (Mom ?) or your Maid/Matron of Honor… in that you will probably appreciate having one person there to help you get into your dress (over your head), do up the back, step into shoes, fix your veil / headpiece, etc.

And as others said, you can always wear a gown (they have some cute “Bride” Gowns you can buy for the occasion)

No reason you have to share this with everyone if you don’t want to… I certainly for example wouldn’t want any pics of me in my undies, or chance someone catching a boob shot as I’m getting “into place” inside my dress (and I mean really, I know the Photographer a lot less than I do Friends & Family)

This time round…

I am Eloping to a Destination Wedding… so when I am getting ready there will be no one there to assist me

๐Ÿ™ *frowny face*

In that I have decided to KEEP the tradition of The Groom only seeing The Bride once she is all dressed and ready to go (we are probably going to do a First Look Photo Shot… and so have asked the Photographer to meet me at our Hotel Room, while Hubby-2-B waits elsewhere)

I had to take this all into consideration when planning out my day (Hair, Make-Up, Getting Ready)… and also when buying my dress etc… with the idea that worst case scenario, it will be the Photographer I’ll be calling on to give me a bit of a zip up if need be… in that I can’t reach all the way… awkward for sure, but at least I’ll be wearing a bra.  Lol

Post # 25
1927 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I went into another room with 3 of my bridesmaids, they helped me get into the dress then I walked out to my parents living room where my girls laced up the dress. My Grandmothers, and Aunts were there and they liked that they could see me get dressed but I was still able to be modest. 

Post # 26
1092 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m very self conscious about my breasts since I had reconstruction after cancer. The only person I show my naked breasts to is my husband. The morning of our wedding my Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man were with me getting ready in our hotel room. While doing my hair and make up I wore a terrycloth wrap but when it came time to put my dress on I explained to them I was uncomfortable and asked them to step out of the room for a few moments. They were very understanding. I stepped into my dress, pulled it up and held it up with one hand while I opened the door and let them in with the other. If I was wearing a bra I might have felt more comfortable but this is what worked for me. The photographer still got the important shot of my Maid/Matron of Honor zipping up my dress.

Post # 27
2177 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I wore a tank top, yoga pants and a robe while my bridal party and myself did hair and makeup.  When it was time to get dressed, my mom and I went into the bathroom where she helped me with my underthings and then I stepped into my dress.  

We then went from the bathroom out into the bedroom of our suite where the photog took pics of my bridesmaids and family swooning over me while my dress was zipped, shoes were put on, etc.

Post # 28
9800 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

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@MissFireFlower:  Nothin wrong with having a mimosa or glass of wine while getting ready! Smile

Post # 29
97 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Buy a white bridal robe to wear…that’s what I will be doing!

Post # 30
1474 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

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@MissFireFlower:  I wore a robe and yoga pants til it was time to put the dress on. At that point, I kicked everyone out except the people who were helping me put the dress on. I’m very modest/shy, so everyone was understanding. I let my photog in to take fake ‘putting on the dress’ pics, i.e., my sister pretended to tighten my corset laces, my mom pretended to help with the strap of my shoe. They turned out very pretty and nobody saw me in my skivvies ๐Ÿ™‚ I did love having a few family members and bridesmaids in the room with me. Their conversation helped calm my nerves ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 31
845 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

If you’re uncomfortable don’t do it. I can’t imagine NOT doing it though. I’ll wear clothes, not going to sit around in my undies.

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