(Closed) So everything is okay.

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Awww yay! I’m so excited for you!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

oh tacos that’s great!! i’m glad you guys have put everything out on the table and you’ve been able to come to some kind of compromise πŸ™‚

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Hey tacos! where is your icon?  I think you should photoshop a taco into your new avatar πŸ˜‰

Good luck and bling bling in the new year!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

Tacos that’s great about the date!  But what do you mean there isn’t any kind of compromise about college?  Does that mean that he won’t propose without you starting college and you won’t start college without a wedding ring?  I’m guessing that is not what that means πŸ™‚ but I am confused.

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Tacos, it’ll be here before you know it I’m sure!  I think that boys are kind of silly sometimes.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Yay…. Congrats

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think it is great that you two talked and figured out a more managable timeline. I think it’s important to recognize you are taking a risk with quitting but reading your post you say that you are unhappy with your current position. Even with this economy the way it is, you have an opportunity to educate yourself and to get a job that will make you happier. Yes something can go wrong and you have people depending on you. BUUUT, you have the opportunity to have a more fulfilling life that you want. You shouldn’t worry about depending on him. There may be a time he may need to depend on you and if you truly think you two will get married then that’s what relationships are for. Just a thought: would it be possible to go to school part time and work part time? It may take longer and be more of a toll on you but it would decrease the risk ever so slightly. I just hope your proposal isn’t conditional. I would look on the bright side that by this time next year, you should be engaged. Yay! It may just require a leap of faith for a few months. Good luck!

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Yay, Tacos!!!! I hope it happens soon!

Post # 12
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Hmm–doesn’t he have health insurance at work? if he has an autoimmune disorder and it flares up, he should be able to go on sick leave. I know at my company you take the first week unpaid, then after that it is 40% pay. Which is still a decent amount, plus you keep all your benefits. Some people have taken leave for a solid year or two while they battle cancer, then come back.

Can you go to college part time while working if that’d help you save a little more money without the daunting factor of quitting, then going to school? You could at least crank out some of the basics.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

I’ve zero objections to him wanting you to go to college and wanting to support you.  (Ha ha, as if I get to have ‘objections’ to your relationships! sorry).  I still think he’s being kind of an ass if he’s saying he won’t marry you till you go to college.  Also I think he’s being unreasonably controlling by wanting you to blindly rely on him financially while going to college without providing any guarantees or insurance for you.  He wants you to bear all the risk!  That’s not cool. 

Would he be willing to transfer some substantial sum of money for tuition purposes to your bank account before you start college, as a gift? 

50K sounds like enough to support a single person fairly comfortably. 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Yay! I’m glad you’re back! πŸ™‚

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

That’s great! Congrats!!!

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