(Closed) So excited for our Catholic ceremony! Not so excited about the time slots…

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: When should we have the ceremony?
    Start at 2pm : (50 votes)
    70 %
    Start at 7pm : (18 votes)
    25 %
    I have another idea! (posted below) : (3 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    ouch! my brother’s fiancee is having the same trouble and they’ll be having it at 7:30 and just do heavy hors d’ourves instead of dinner. with that timeslot, your guests wont be expecting a full meal.

    Post # 4
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    The area where I am from is Heavy Catholic. All weddings are 1 or 2pm then there is a HUGE gap of time before cocktail hour. Guests usually meet at at family members house or local pub for coffee and cocktails Then they move on to the reception venue for cocktail hour Most start at 5:30-6:00. . The Bride and Groom make their entrance at 7pm. 

    Post # 5
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    5984 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 1999

    I know some people don’t appreciate having a lengthy break between the ceremony and reception, but I personally wouldn’t want to have dinner at 9pm.  That would leave you with only a couple hours to dance (assuming your having a DJ/Band).  Speaking from experience, I was so sad when the reception was over…it goes so fast…and we had 3 hours of dancing.  So…I voted for 2pm!

    Here was our schedule (if it helps):

    2:30 Ceremony

    6:00 Cocktail Hour

    6:30 Announcements/Toasts

    7:00 Dinner

    8:00-11:00 Cake Cutting/Dancing

    Post # 6
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I’m having a Catholic wedding, but I’m lucky our church’s Saturday vigil is at 6, so our ceremony starts at 4. I would vote for the later one. I think the venue will be really nice and intimate feeling if its dark with all those windows. 

    When people see the time on the invite they’ll know to eat a hearty lunch, and 8 o’clock cocktails with hors d’oeuvres sounds about right anyhow. If you go out to eat on a Saturday night you never go before 8 anyhow. 

    Post # 6
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    576 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I know some bees will disagree with me, but I say have the ceremony at 2pm. Then have cocktails start at 5ish, followed by dinner. I know the gap is frowned upon. But in my area, its VERY common if your having a Catholic mass, because the churches only do afternoon wedding masses. FYI My mass will at 1pm.

    Just reccommend a plan for your guests between festivities, like tasting a local food specialty and touring a landmark in your city. That way they can convoy around the city together and keep the party going while you take some pictures.

    Post # 8
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    @ranunculusdreams: that’s the knot for you. They hate everything that is traditional and expensive ๐Ÿ˜›

    Post # 9
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    335 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I’m getting married at 7pm.  I’ll let you know in two weeks if I still think that’s a good idea.  ๐Ÿ™‚ I didn’t want the gap and the Fiance and I are spending time together before since the day will go so quickly after the 7pm mass.

    Post # 11
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 1993

    @MissShork: agreed. that’s what we had to do. I’ve only been to one wedding that DIDN’T have a gap. You can always include suggestions for guests to do in the meantime. One wedding I went to was right next to a locally famous brewery, so people did a tour, hung out at the bar to pass the time.

    I’ve never been annoyed at a gap because I know sometimes it just can’t be avoided, and Darling Husband and I are big kids and we’ll find something to do ๐Ÿ˜‰

    Post # 12
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 1993

    @ranunculusdreams: You put that on the Knot? You poor thing. I’ve seen them just shred women for even suggesting that. If it’s seriously that big of a deal to someone to have a gap, then don’t go to the wedding. It’s not the end of the world.

    That, any registry info anywhere and anything but a cash bar will get you on the Knot’s hitlist.

    Post # 14
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    It’s very common where I’m from for there to be a gap between the Catholic ceremony and the Reception.

    That being said, I’m gonna have to agree with @melissl and say early ceremony and later reception. You could have a full mass, receiving line, pictures outside the church, this will all take some time and you will appreciate feeling unrushed. Also, you’ll have plenty of time to take pictures with your new hubby and still enjoy your cocktail hour!!

    I don’t know, maybe it’s just what I’m used to. But I know we do things differently in NY.

     

    Post # 15
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    5295 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 1993

    @LauraCYW: I agree – the day felt short enough as it was. A later ceremony=less dancing time. And as a younger guest at a wedding, that’s what I’m looking forward to ๐Ÿ™‚

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