(Closed) So far away :( Not sure how to feel

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
5106 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@AmeliaBedelia: It’s terrible thinking things like this, and there really is no easy way to deal with it. Has your grandfather been to the doctor at all? Maybe you should discuss your feelings with your parents? See what they know.

I’m so sorry. I hadn’t ever dealth with loss until about 4 years ago when I lost my aunt. She wa like my second mother, and my grandfather followed not long after. It never gets any easier.

Enjoy every moment you have with them. Call them often, stop by their house on a whim. Cherish them.

Maybe you should have a heart to heart with your grandparents. Ask about their well-being,

Sorry I don’t have better things to say. I suck at these things.

Post # 4
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2091 posts
Buzzing bee

I feel the same way. My grandparents aren’t as old but they have a fair amount of health problems between them. I don’t think you should move your date… if you really feel you should, then switch it by all means. No one can possibly know how much time someone has left. 

Post # 5
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9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I’m so sorry… that is tough. I think you probably know however, that they know that you are happy. And that’s really all grandparents ever want for their beloved grandchildren. To see them happy, healthy and in love. What’s really important to them is already what they are seeing now. Just love them and visit as much as you can in the meantime and you will never regret it.

Post # 7
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2154 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’m so sorry. I can relate – one of my grandfathers passed away this year, and when I see my other grandfather and grandmother, I also can’t help thinking that they seem so much older than they should be. They’ve always been very young and active for their age, and it seems like in the past couple of years their aging has just suddenly accelerated. It’s a strange feeling, for sure. But as KatyElle has said, what’s most important to them is your happiness. They want you to have the best possible life. If having a wedding in May 2012 is part of your best possible life, that’s what you should be doing. 

Post # 9
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4606 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I have some of the same concerns you do, mostly with my grandfather though. He can barely get around, his hearing is almost gone and I can just tell he’s getting much older. Not to mention that my Future Mother-In-Law and Future Father-In-Law both have health problems.

Sometimes I wish FH and I could just go ahead and get married while everyone is still able to get to the wedding, but I know that’s illogical.

Post # 11
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615 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Just wanted to say that I can totally relate! I am actually almost crying reading this. My Great-Grandmother is so incredibly important to me and the thought of her not being at my wedding is so scary. I will say prayers for you that everything goes well. I think it is so wonderful you have such a great relationship with them!

Post # 12
Bee
6473 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011 - Sydney, Australia

I know exactly how you feel – I’ve been worried about my gran (who suffers from Breast Cancer) for the whole time we’ve been engaged, and even before! With the wedding three months away now (FINALLY) I’m just hoping and praying everyday that she’ll be there to celebrate with us. Though in the awful circumstance that something happens and she can’t be there, I know she’d still be there with us in some way. Hugs to you. 

Post # 13
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762 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’m so sorry for you! I’ve been engaged for almost a year and a half and last year took FOREVER. My uncle and aunt whom I’m very close to have always been like grandparents to me and last year between health complications and a car accident, they weren’t doing so well. I wanted to much to bump the wedding up but we decided against it. Thankfully they are both still with us and I hope like crazy they will be for the wedding but I can definatly share your pain! My advice is to do what feels right, either way, you are getting married to the love of your life πŸ™‚

Post # 14
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4547 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I understand how you feel. Both of my grandmothers were unable to travel to our wedding. They’re both from NY and we live in VA. It wa really difficult for me to accept but I sent them lots of pictures and we went and visited them soon after.

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