- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
HI bees, just need to vent some.
So, I still need a veil/hair flower. I’m looking at birdcage veil headbands becuase I need something really pretty to accent my short hair. I already have a hair flower head band, but I found a super cute bow headband on etsy that has a small net attatched that goes over one eye. THIS is what I want to wear on my wedding day, I showed my mom and she says “Well you can make that for your flower headband that you have, you have the stuff, its free! this one costs money. yada yada”
I also told her, well I don’t have shoes! and I still need those, I also need something to go voer my dress considering it’s going to be winter time, and she says” well we still have 3 months till the wedding you can get those later”. this is what peeves me: We DONT have that long! I need to order these things offline, which takes time to get in the mail, also I need them before my dress fitting in October to see if I like them with my dress, to make alterations accordingly,and if they dont work, so I have enough time to order something else.
This is so aggravating! My mom was more worried about getting her dress to wear for the wedding, that she is completely undermining me and what I need to look good on MY wedding day. Am I not allowed to have the headpiece that I want? But instead deal with something that I already have that I don’t like just because it’s free? WTF.
My Fiance is being supportive and telling me that he will buy these things for me, but he shouldnt have to. My Future Mother-In-Law bought my dress and is paying for the alterations, my mom hasn’t bought anything for me to wear on my day and traditionally, the mother pays for the dress, so I dont get it.
It’s just frustrating that she thinks that I should just wear what I have and that its not a big deal, but its a super big deal for her to get HER dress NOW, when she doesnt have alterations and stuff to worry about and she’s not the one everyones going to be looking at. Its just upsetting.
I know Im all over the place in this post but I really needed to vent. But I’m done now :p lol