Post # 1
We hung out with FH dad side who we see like once a year and we started talking about our wedding and she came over and was like “oh please don’t let it be a Friday wedding” and I was like yes it is…and she literally just started going on and on about how we shouldn’t hold our wedding on a Friday because people have to take off work and I told her if you work an 8 to 5 if you don’t or can’t take off your half day should be 12 that’s plenty of time to get to a 5pm ceremony and people will lose more money than we are saving money and I was like that’s why people have vacation days…..I was literally about to tear because #1 I can’t take it when people are just constantly in my face speaking to me in such a negative tone right and that’s exactly how she was towards me. of course I was covering it up with little smiles and quick laughs and trying to explain why we chose Friday which was because I wanted people to enjoy the rest of the weekend which everyone else on his side of the family understood and I was like who wouldn’t want to take off on a Friday after a long work week…..FH could see how I was getting and he stepped in and was like “cant you just give me one day” and then she was like “yeah but it just causes so many issues”…bothered me at first because this isn’t the first time she got on our case about it but now I’m just like if people truly love us and care and want to support us they will show up and if you can’t come to a Friday wedding to support your own nephew who you barely see then that’s just really sad!
Anyone else have any other family members upset about the day they chose?
Post # 3
Oh my gosh that is so rude of her!
I would tell her that every day is going to be problematic for somebody, and also that it is your day, not hers, so you will have it on whatever damn day of the week you choose.
Friday evenings usually aren’t an issue for most people. I had mine on a Saturday, and even then some told me that they had to come late. That was fine, but obviously I wasnt going to change the day for them. You can’t please everyone.
And yes, like you said, close family, if they really want to come, should be able to get part of the day off so far in advance.
I can’t stand abraisive personalities like that.
Post # 4
@sinfulli2sweet: F the Friday Haters! I’ve gotten so much ISH about my Friday that I will tell the next person to shove it up thier butt. We have to scale down our guest list now, so haters get the boot lol.
Post # 5
YEP!! Its going to happen. You will not please everyone. One of my uncles was upset that we chose a wedding date so close to his daughters birthday.. Yeah…….like Im going to plan my wedding around peoples birthdays in the family. If we tried to do that we would never be able to get married! lol
Post # 6
Yes so true you really can’t please everyone! I didn’t think Friday was that bad but according to her it is! i told her people work on Saturday too and of course she had nothing to say about that because she isn’t one of those people. She does have a very abrasive personality and she seems to always have it towards me for some reason. I’m not worrying about it anymore but it’s just really annoying that she had to be like that.
Post # 7
Ugh, why do these people feel they are so important / special to think that you give a s&$t about what they think about your wedding. I mean honestly, I would never say anything negative about anything even if it was a Monday wedding. Come on people, you get a RSVP for a reason! We did a friday night wedding but luckily , since we didnt invite any family that we are not close to or anyone other than good friends , I only had one snide comment about how our wedding was 4 days before Christmas and how would they do their shopping? I politely gave it right back by saying, well that’s why we sent Save-The-Date Cards 6 months ahead so you had plenty of notice and time to coordinate your shopping however we understand if you can’t come, they shut up !
Post # 8
@Earlybride: Lol… my wedding is ON MY BROTHER’S BIRTHDAY!!!! My parents actually chose the wedding date… long story but having it earlier in March would have potentially clashed with the grand prix nearby and the weekend before had something wrong as well (my dad was the one negotiating with this with the venue) so I get a text: “They can do 21 March 2014, is that ok?” and I’m like “Ummm, you know that’s Pete’s birthday? I think I better double check to see he doesn’t mind!”. Lol (he didn’t, but I still think we should sing him happy birthday at the reception 😛 lol).
Fellow Friday bride here, of course it’s not going to suit everyone, but most will be able to make it work. We cant adjust our plans to try and suit every whim of every guest, it’s completely unworkable!