Post # 1
So I logged into facebook this afternoon and I see that FI’s cousin posted something to the effect of “Congratulations “Jack” and “Jill” “….then she posted a link to our website for all 800 or so of her friends to see!
I freakin’ freaked out!! I immediately sent her a nice but straight forward message, asking her to remove the post or atleast the link to the website! Reason being…we’re planning a destination wedding so we’re not inviting all of the family. We just didn’t want to offend anyone so we have made no mention at all as far as the wedding plans and details on FB or any social media. She has not responded to my message yet, so I was forced to put a password on the site. To make matters worse, we haven’t even mailed the Save-The-Date Cards yet! Ughh!! Am I overreacting??
Post # 3
🙁 Boo. Hopefully she understands and takes down the link.
Post # 4
I would be really upset too!
She probably “just wanted to be nice” but that is just not ok.
Post # 5
Not at all! If you wanted to share it with everyone you would have. She should have asked before she posted .
Post # 6
Not crazy. I sent my mom my wedding video recap the second I got it and not 10 minutes later my uncle had posted it to Facebook. My husband hadn’t even seen it yet. I hate shit like this. You did the right thing by password protecting AND sending the letter.
Post # 7
Some people seriously need a FB etiquette lesson. You are absolutely NOT overreacting. The password protection is a good idea. However before you let it ruin your weekend remember that people have short attention spans! Leave the password protection on but people will forget about the post as soon as someone else comes up with something new. The good news is it’s the weekend so in just a few days time FB will be flooded with photos and qoutes from “last night” so hopefully no one will even remember it by remember it by Monday!
Post # 8
Yea, I’m sure she didn’t do it to be mean and just wasn’t really thinking. But she finally responded to my message and she deleted the post! She apologized and was actually very sweet about it. But I’m wondering if I should keep the “password protect” on, atleast until the Save-The-Date Cards are out…
Post # 9
I would keep the password protection at least until the STD are sent!
Post # 10
While I undersatnd why you are upset I’m not sure I agree with you and do feel you are overreacting by freaking out about it. A wedding website is a public website (unless you password it) which is pretty easy to search for via weddingchannel.com or even simply googling your names. If you didnt want it to be shared with the public then you probably should have password protected it from day 1.
Post # 11
@MrsWBS: It bothered me because it had our booking details and information on the website (we are doing a cruise wedding to the Bahamas) so that info is readily available for guests who are booking, and I didn’t feel comfortable with just random people snooping around and looking at that info. The wedding website I went through to design my website,gives you the option to NOT have your website published or searchable…which I did select to do.
Also there are family members who are friends with her on FB who we did not invite as we are keeping the guestlist somewhat small, who are now asking for information..
ETA: I did not password protect from “day 1” because my website is NOT published or searchable. The only way people who have known about my website is if I gave them that info. So yea….