(Closed) So…. FMIL got me a dress… advice?

posted 7 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

@JessieK:  Try it on to make her feel better when you next see her, but then be honest and say something like “It’s not exactly my style, but I really appreciate you remembering that I wanted to try this on. I think it was perfect for _____ (friend’s daughter) but I don’t think it’s the right one for me unfortunately.” She just wants to be involved, so validate it and move on.

Post # 4
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

heheehh “…..but you’re a strong girl”.  sorry but i laughed

maybe “its very sweet but its not what i dreamed about when i married your son but thank you for getting it for me to try”

Post # 6
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

you never know, it could be nice…. but if its not, please be sure to take a pic and share with us 🙂

Post # 8
1474 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)

I agree with bakerella and eloping – thank you for her kind offer, but say it’s not your style and that you want to find something perfect for YOU for your wedding. Your Future Mother-In-Law sounds very sweet, but this is quite a strange offer!

Post # 9
105 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Tell her you already bought another one! “… oh bummer! sorry Future Mother-In-Law – I didn’t think you’d pull through” 😉

Post # 10
3360 posts
Sugar bee

Hey you never know, it might be an awesome dress ! eheh Do you think she would be hurt if you tried it on and decided that it wasnt what you wanted ? 

Post # 11
1398 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I would suggest you go dress shopping right now and get a dress, then you can make up a white lie about just walking in a shop to look at bridesmaids dresses and there was this dress you fell in love with instantly, and you knew you had to have it. an “Oops, found my dress before I had a chance to try yours on” thing. She may buy that.

Post # 12
1629 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

lol get married in the middle of summer… heavy=hot!  that way you can get out of it gracefully.

Post # 13
1042 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I would just tell her that you appreciate the offer, you’re sure it’s a lovely dress, but you are really looking forward to the shopping experience with your mom/girlfriends etc.. if you don’t find anything you love, you would love to take a look at her dress.


I actually had to use this on a friend who wanted to sell me her dress (drunkenly after her wedding 6 years ago, I told her I wanted her dress, and I’d buy it from her when I got married-never thought she’d remember, but she did!)

Post # 14
630 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Never underestimate a good seamstress! With a little (okay, lot) of re-imagining, I bet you could make it into something completely unique that you’d love!

Post # 15
206 posts
Helper bee

I would say thank-you, I’d love to try it on. It’s pretty non-committal, and still values her offer. Then, you get to spend time with her, and try it on. If you look disappointed and say “oh no, it doesn’t fit, overwhelmes my figure, is too heavy, isn’t flattering” I don’t think she’d be offended. Plus it gives you more time to find a dress you oveso you can say you already have one. Besides, who knows, you might like it.

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