(Closed) So freaking sick of waiting on my FMIL to do something SIMPLE

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
3771 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

I would go a head and find the addresses myself. If you can’t find them tell her they aren’t getting an invitation if she can’t get you the rest of the addresses by then.

Post # 4
6247 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

Oh my goodness thank you for writing this.  I am going through the same issue with my Future Mother-In-Law right now.  I have sent out all of my Save-The-Date Cards to my family, friends, and coworkers but she hasn’t even finished getting all the addresses yet.  It’s been FOUR MONTHS since I asked her.  And asked again.  And asked again.  And Fiance has been on her case too.  Ughhh I completely feel your pain!!

(We have to get our Save-The-Date Cards out this early because we’re getting married on a holiday weekend and this is the time when people start planning vacations and such.)

Post # 6
699 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

If you really want those people there, is there any way you can circumvent the Mother-In-Law for some of the addresses?  Do you have the contact info for a cousin or aunt or someone, who might be able to help out?

I often ask my cousins for things because they respond a lot quicker than my aunts and uncles.  

Post # 7
9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Just call her and tell her you would like to hold while she gets the addresses for you. If she has to call you back, tell her you will call back in 5 mins. and keep calling til you get it. Do it for your own peace of mind.

Post # 8
2638 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2006

I know you’re trying to prove a point here, but isn’t this what whitepages.com is for? If it were me, I’d do it on my own just so I could quit bitching about it.

Post # 9
699 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Quick note to those who have suggested finding the addresses online –

While it may work for some folks (my last name is very unique), what if it means trying to find the address for A. Smith in NYC?  It’s probably not very feasible.

Post # 11
122 posts
Blushing bee

i would go round and sit in her living room with her and ask to see her address book or these people will not be invited to the wedding as ther is no feasable way they would be ablt respond in a timely manner


Post # 12
378 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Do you live near by her? Can you make a time for you and your FH to come by the house for coffee and to get the addresses for her guest list straigthened out? The best way to get things done is to do it in person – I wish I had that luxury but my Future Mother-In-Law is 3 hours away by plane!

Post # 13
269 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Give her a deadline and let her know that if you do not get the address by then you will assume she does not want these people at your wedding so you will be inviting other guest in their place. Is there anyone like a grandmother or aunt your Fiance can call since they are his family too?  

Post # 15
1488 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

OMG totally going through the same thing. Future Mother-In-Law has been holding their guest list hostage since Christmas because they need to “verify” one address. Seriously? I need to order my invites soon! Grrrr

Post # 16
3624 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Where were you ladies when I wrote my post about the same thing?! I though I was the only one who went throigh this. I feel ya.

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