posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
579 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@Jessicachantal:  I’d get told you suck it up. Your jojb is your job and unless you passed out can’t drive type tired I’d expect to go to work. It can take me up to 4 hours to get to sleep… For a year or two it took no less than one and a half, my dh response was find a way to switch your mind off. I was in uni so no way I could just not go in, same with work now, that would not be an acceptable excuse in the office unless like I said early you’re a danger driving. Even then I’d probably needs a doctors letter if I wanted sick leave, else I’d have to take a day of my leave.

Post # 4
7271 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I would probably get told to suck it up. However, as someone who had problems sleeping (not as bad as yours but I still don’t get much sleep at night) I’m sorry you’re going through this. I don’t think it’s an acceptable excuse to skip work though. If you did skip work would you actually sleep today?

Post # 5
1162 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@Jessicachantal:  Never would my Fiance tell me to suck it up. Being awake for over 24 hours is COMPLETELY different to having a crappy nights sleep, and I don’t have insomnia!

But I will often get a crappy nights sleep and even if Fiance has a worse nights sleep, I will say that just to show some emplathy, not to downtrod his feelings. (Although our situation is very different, I am someone who relies HEAVILY on plenty of good sleep, I cannot function well without it. He, on the other hand, is just a bit sleepy, maybe a bit cranky.)

Still, even if I have been awake all night, choice or not, I will struggle through the next day. I wouldn’t take time off for being super sleepy.


ETA: I noticed some bees were talking about taking time off, and that some of them take “mental health days” – is that an option in your workplace? 🙂

Post # 6
11 posts

@Jessicachantal:  Do you know why you have insomnia? You should get to the root of the problem now or suffer a long time.

As to the “suck it up” comment – perhaps you can train him to just say “I’m sorry you didn’t sleep well. I hope your day goes well”. I would not tolerate someone who tells me to suck it up. It’s disrespectful and if you take it you will never be treated any better.

Post # 7
31 posts

Not sleeping is not an excuse not to go to work, i would also get told to get over it! if it continues id maybe go and see a dr and see if they cant help x

Post # 8
6499 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2019

My SO would never tell me to suck it up but he always plays the “I didn’t sleep either” game. From where I am from not working because you didn’t sleep isn’t an option. I hope you get some sleep tonight 🙂

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