Post # 1
I did not sleep a wink last night, at all. Literally a night where you lay there praying your body will fall asleep but it just never does. I can’t continue on having these sleep issues , some nights are bad but last night, just the worst. My FI gets up at 5 for work and I usually get up at 6, I came out to say goodbye to him at 515 and he asked why I’m up (I start work at 730) and I said I haven’t fallen asleep yet. So he says to suck it up and is not compassionate at all, and says “i didnt sleep well either”… lucky for him he will be home from work by noon while i will be there til 4… and our jobs are quite different.
Is not sleeping an excuse to stay home from work?
Does you SO show any compassion or just tell you to “suck it up” in situations like this?
Am I just being a big baby cause I am sleep deprived?!
AHHHH so sick of insomnia!
Post # 3
@Jessicachantal: I’d get told you suck it up. Your jojb is your job and unless you passed out can’t drive type tired I’d expect to go to work. It can take me up to 4 hours to get to sleep… For a year or two it took no less than one and a half, my dh response was find a way to switch your mind off. I was in uni so no way I could just not go in, same with work now, that would not be an acceptable excuse in the office unless like I said early you’re a danger driving. Even then I’d probably needs a doctors letter if I wanted sick leave, else I’d have to take a day of my leave.
Post # 4
I would probably get told to suck it up. However, as someone who had problems sleeping (not as bad as yours but I still don’t get much sleep at night) I’m sorry you’re going through this. I don’t think it’s an acceptable excuse to skip work though. If you did skip work would you actually sleep today?
Post # 5
@Jessicachantal: Never would my FI tell me to suck it up. Being awake for over 24 hours is COMPLETELY different to having a crappy nights sleep, and I don’t have insomnia!
But I will often get a crappy nights sleep and even if FI has a worse nights sleep, I will say that just to show some emplathy, not to downtrod his feelings. (Although our situation is very different, I am someone who relies HEAVILY on plenty of good sleep, I cannot function well without it. He, on the other hand, is just a bit sleepy, maybe a bit cranky.)
Still, even if I have been awake all night, choice or not, I will struggle through the next day. I wouldn’t take time off for being super sleepy.
ETA: I noticed some bees were talking about taking time off, and that some of them take “mental health days” – is that an option in your workplace? 🙂
Post # 6
@Jessicachantal: Do you know why you have insomnia? You should get to the root of the problem now or suffer a long time.
As to the “suck it up” comment – perhaps you can train him to just say “I’m sorry you didn’t sleep well. I hope your day goes well”. I would not tolerate someone who tells me to suck it up. It’s disrespectful and if you take it you will never be treated any better.
Post # 7
Not sleeping is not an excuse not to go to work, i would also get told to get over it! if it continues id maybe go and see a dr and see if they cant help x
Post # 8
My SO would never tell me to suck it up but he always plays the “I didn’t sleep either” game. From where I am from not working because you didn’t sleep isn’t an option. I hope you get some sleep tonight 🙂
Post # 9
Update, thanks for letting me get my cranky “I can’t believe I had another sleepless night” frustrated rant out there ladies. I’m not sure what I was more mad about – not sleeping again or the way FI dealt with it- and in turn I didn’t deal well! I made it through an exhausting day at the “office” which actually is the operating room- so not sleeping does sometimes make me question how safe I will be at work. Lucky for me when I got there we had extra staff and the workload was not too crazy. fi and I talked this morning and again when I got home from work and he apolgiZed for the way he responded and I know he meant it , he truly never means to offend me … Sometimes I just get sensitive… Such as when I am cranky due to sleep deprivation lol.
@MrsBeck: I thought about this and it would have been a losing situation if I chose to stay home and get some sleep- then I would not be able to sleep tonight and start a bad cycle!
@Jimmianne: i have no idea what’s causing it but it has been going on too long. The dr has given me sleeping pills to try in desperate times but I’m just such a lightweight with any kind of meds I’ve been scared to take them and feel totally out of it the next morning. But not sleeping is making me feel out of it too so I think I’m ready to try them.
@MsBeer: I sure do hate that game haha- sometimes just “aw I’m sorry you didn’t sleep babe” would make me feel better!