(Closed) So frustrated :(

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
Member
258 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’m sorry that you’re already anticipating your disappointment.  πŸ™  I know a lot about that feeling.  It sucks.  And then for some reason it sucks even more when you DO get let down/disappointed.  *le sigh*

 

The only thing I would advise you to do is make sure that he knows that it’s not really appropriate to propose AT someone else’s wedding.  I could see how a guy might misguidedly think that it’s SUPER romantic, when really, it’s super faux pas.  I’m not saying your boyfriend is clueless or anything, but you never know what they’re thinking!  So…just make sure that’s not what he’s planning to do. πŸ™‚

Post # 4
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4046 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

There is a right time for everyone to get married, and it can be really hard to wait. But you two need to get engaged at your own time and your own schedule.

If you do not get engaged before the other wedding, people will pester you about when you’re getting engaged.

And if you do get engaged, people will pester you about all the wedding details and make you feel bad that you don’t have it all planned out.

(And if you did get married, they will pester you about having babies). You really can’t win. Just make sure you are getting engaged and married at the right time for you and your Fiance.

Post # 5
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629 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Aw, I’m sorry that you’re feeling that way. Waiting is hard… especially when they put a time limit on it! (My guy did the same thing… and the time limit lapsed!) 

Just know that you’ve got a guy whose working on it, and who is choosing you! πŸ˜€ 

Post # 6
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425 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

awwww πŸ™ Im sorry you feel that way. but you kno what, look at the bright side- Mny girls wait for thier guy to even bring it up with them. to even discuss the idea of marriage.. He wants to marry you, he knows this and you know ths as well.. he has already ” chosen’ you to be his wife and mother of his children, but like you said- money is tight- things will fall into place when they should. as for now, be that supportive loving Girlfriend you are Im sure- and that would set him at ease – and probably when he sees how your handling it- the quetion might randomly might pop outa no where <3

 

Post # 7
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153 posts
Blushing bee

I agree, no proposal AT someone’s wedding. soooo tacky lol.

I’m sorry you’re feeling disappointed. Don’t let other people make you feel bad though. I don’t think people mean to “pressure” other people about getting engaged. I think it’s just something you bring up when you haven’t seen people in a while. And I think most of the time people are trying to be nice.

Just try to have fun at the wedding, let loose and focus on visiting with family and friends.

Post # 8
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1542 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Look at the bright side, someway or another he’s going to propose, you may not have a ring in your finger for this relative wedding, but do you really want to him to rush it just for that reason?

Post # 9
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147 posts
Blushing bee

@kerensa: It really is true isn’t it? Why are people so nosey? :p 

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