(Closed) So frustrated :(

posted 7 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I came off BCPs in late October and was totally amped on using OPKs every day and BDing at the right times etc etc etc.  I decided that this time I’m not going to worry about it, no OPK testing and just BD every couple days.  I feel like the old saying “it happens when you stop trying” may actually be true.  With that being said, I have no reason to ssume that my body won’t regulate on itself and do what it’s supposed to.

How long have you been TTC? How long have you noticed you’re not ovulating?  I would say if it hasn’t been too long, try not to think about it too much…. and remember that 8-12 months to concieve is considered NORMAL! I know I know, we want it now:)

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

So sorry you aren’t ovulating. ๐Ÿ™ I can’t tell you how to reduce stress, as I’m up to my ears in stress from ttc and struggle with this daily. But I hope you enjoy the holiday season and take good care of yourself, both physically and mentally. Why do you have to wait until March? Hang in there!!

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

@roxy821: Ahh, I see. Well, I hope that your body cooperates and starts ovulating and soon! ๐Ÿ™‚  If not, just know that the doctor will have a plan in place and should be able to help you! Many ladies don’t ovulate properly and just need a little help (medicine) and then get pregnant! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I completely understand the frustration of not ovulating.  I just started ovulating again after almost a year of not ovulating.  It took some time working with my doctor to figure out what was wrong, but things are better now! At least with the ovulating part…still no BFP but I am hoping that will happen now that I am regulating.

The charting and OPK’s were making me crazy too, but I tried to focus on something else.  My husband and I try to plan something fun for if I end up getting AF and obviously a BFN so that way there is a little something to look forward to and get my mind off it.  It doesn’t have to be something big, just something you enjoy.  Maybe you could do that with OPK’s? It doesn’t completely make it go away, but it helps distract me a bit.

I also have been really trying to focus on getting healthy and learning to cook new meals.  The meal planning and recipe discovering has helped me to focus on something besides TTC. 

*HUGS* Try to hang in there.  I know it’s tough, but we’re here to listen!

 

Edit: By the way, it just took some medicine to get me ovulating properly, that might be all you need as well!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

i’m sorry you are having a rough time. sending some major hugs your way.

after 6 months of bfn’s (i know this is nothing compared to other couples) i was broken, frustrated and totally stressed out. all i could think of was about babies, ttc, beeing pregnant and so on. i had to tell myself that this is not the way how things could continue. so i cut down on my internet time (searching for signs, stories, medical issues etc) to about 15min in the morning and 15min at night. I started practicing yoga twice a week and i’m also going to acupuncture on a weekly basis. i forced myself to see what I have now and not what I currenlty can’t have. for me all these little things worked wonders. i’m still not pregnant which still makes me sad but i’m not as sensitive as I used to be. 

i hope you’ll find a way to deal with the struggle and hopefully your doctor has a plan ready for you when you get to see him in march. good luck!

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@roxy821: aww…girl, I’m with you…(as you already know!) I feel your pain with the not ovulating bit!

I can’t help you  make the stress go away, but I can definately go through this with you!

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@roxy821: oh I hear ya! And personally, I don’t want to talk to my friends about ovulating..lol.

I have one friend who is curerntly 30 wks preggers, but  took her a year, and I tried to have the charting talk with her, but her response was “good luck, it was so frustrating and a pain in the ass, jsut take a HPT each month and don’t worry”.

So that was no fun. None of my other friends are there yet, so they are still all on HBC anyways.

I do plan to talk to my sis though. I know my mom was married 8 years before she was born, so i’m wondering if there might have been some fertility stuff going on. I think my sis got KU with all three of hers pretty quickly though.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I’ve never been through this, so I don’t have any tips, but I hope everything gets better! Best wishes! : )

Post # 15
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Blushing bee

Can you go see another doctor?  It seems crazy that they want you to chart and use opks for 3 months to see if you are ovulating.  My doctor (RE) didn’t care about my charts or opks – she took a bunch of bloods tests that first day I saw her and then had me come back on CD2 and CD 21 for more blood tests to see what was going on.  I actually stopped charting after seeing my doctor and it reduced the stress. 

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