Post # 1
I thought Id join here because it’ll give me somewhere to vent and people to relate to!
I have been with my boyfriend for 4.5 years. I am only 24, and he’s 26, so we’re fairly young. I am just frustrated because I feel like at this point in a relationship, we should be engaged.
We bought a house in august. Right now we are both LPN’s and make a good living. However, we decided to go back to school (together! oh boy!). It is an 8 month program to transition to Registered Nurses and we’ll be done in 3 months.
I know the time probably isnt right, as money is tight now, but Im just irritated. I feel like it wouldnt necessarily be plausible, but it is POSSIBLE.
Before we went back to school money was good, and we would have been able to get engaged then. I just know that now– we have to graduate, pass state exams, get jobs, and save. then get engaged.
He says all the time that were going to get married, and i KNOW its going to happen eventually, Im just impatient.
Call me crazy, but I just think that by the time it happens, we will be together for 5.5 years probably and my thought is that no one will care at that point. Like why would anyone be happy, were pretty much living like were married already? I just see all my friends getting married/engaged after 1 and 2 years of dating and get sad. Everyone jokes that they thought Id be first, and now it looks like Ill be last….
Someone please talk some sense into me!
Post # 3
Well, I’ve been with my mister for almost 7 years and I know that our family and friends will totally be excited when we do finally get engaged, so try not to worry about that. If you need more reassurance, a friend of mine had been dating her now husband for 10 years before they got engaged and everyone was super excited for them too.
And also, you’re so close to be done with school so I wouldn’t fret too much about it. It’s a good thing that you’re both being responsible with making sure you’re financially secure before taking that next step. Yeah, it kind of sucks being responsible but you’ll appreciate it later on!
Post # 4
Don’t compare yourself to other people! You and your SO are preparing for your future by furthing your education and becoming RNs. You are working toward a goal that will ultimately strengthen your relationship.
Nursing school can be quite a challenge! You and your SO are going through this together, as a couple, and how many people can say that? I come from a family of nurses and know quite a few RNs. . .I only know one couple who did their MSN together, and after 20+ years of marriage, they are still happily married.
School will be over before you know it, and you will both be sitting for your boards soon. Then, you’ll be settling into your new careers as RNs. Time flies! Just try to relax and concentrate on your classes and clinicals! 🙂
Post # 5
I have to agree with PPs, never compare yourself with other couples, even if they do get engaged before you, it’s because the timing was right for them, and you never really know how happy they are behind closed doors.
Your engagement will come, as you said you need to get through these exams, in which you said will only take 3 months more. I’m pretty sure when you are both settled again and the pressures are off, you can much easier get engaged, and you will be happier for it.
Congratulations for being together 4.5 years thats a real achievement alone and you seem like a really strong couple, be proud that you have dated this long, rather than rushing into engagements.
After 3.5 years of dating, and when me and Fiance got engaged, the famillies were MORE excited, as it was a long time coming, and you just know sometimes good things come to those who wait, as we appreciate the engagements more 🙂
Best wishes, not long to go now!