(Closed) So frustrated and upset!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Oh geez…why do guys not think sometimes?!?!

You guys need to talk it out and go back to his mom and just say sorry but no.

Good luck 🙁

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

You need to talk to him about this.  He can’t make decisions like this without you, especially when you both had previously decided on the details.

Have you already booked and paid deposits at the venue you had previously selected?  Are there no nearby towns/cities that have hotels you could use?  If these things are done and there are no other options, you need to get your Fiance to tell his mom before she starts telling everyone that they are invited.

While I do think it is very generous that your Future Mother-In-Law and Future Father-In-Law are willing to contribute to the wedding, you need to figure out if a larger wedding is even feasible at this point.  Talk to your Fi and hopefully you get this worked out soon!

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I’m so sorry to hear this. : ( There’s a huge difference between a small, intimate wedding of just 20 people and one with 80 guests. If you really want the small one, stick with that decision. It is really considerate that your Future Mother-In-Law offered to pay for some, but a bigger budget doesn’t overrule what you want for your wedding.

We’re inviting 30 people to our wedding and I am so excited about its intimacy (and the fact that I can see/hang out with all of the guests). There were awkward times when people said they couldn’t wait to attend the wedding and I had to tell them they’re not invited, but because it’s small and intimate, they (mostly) understood.

We’re going to record the ceremony and make a “documentary” of sorts, then burnt it on cds and send that to friends/distant family who are not invited. This way, they’ll be able to witness our big day, but at a later date.

And talk to your Fiance about this. Communication is key – hard sometimes, but so important. No big decisions shall be made until they are run by both of you!

Hugs and best wishes!

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

that would be crazy! I cannot imagine it and was glad Mr. Rabbit’s mom has been super cool about the wedding and called ahead of time to check about her 6 friends she’s inviting. Adding 60 is insane and you may want to tell her yourself the very good reasons you have for a small guestlist. 

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