Post # 1
So I had to take a bee break becasue of all the wedding related drama, but now that it’s 2012 (Uh Oh) and Fiance and I wanted to be married by the end of this year we need to GET MOVING ON THE WEDDING PLANNING
He’s so damn wishy washy, first he wants this then he wants that then he doesn’t give a damn. Can it be one please?!?!?!!?
I think I just need to take charge and make his mind up for him.
“We’re doing A, B & C. There. It’s done”
Post # 3
Oh, sorry you have had so much drama, but you are back here now. With your FH, have you tried limiting the options? With my Darling Husband, I would pick out my three favorites then sit down with him and talk over the options. We had a deal, once it was written in our planning book, we were done with it and on to the next thing. Maybe that might work for you.
Post # 4
He’s so vague with his wants and then he turns arround and chanes his mind. I want to elope, but he wants a big weddin so we settled on a small wedding. I;m only inviting 5 people but he HAS to have 35 people with him. His closest firends and family!
But OK, that’s cool. I can see how 35 is smaller then 200. The one person I care about the most can’t travel. She
s very old and very sick and needs to stay in town, close to her Drs and the hospital. Our town is small, out of the way, and there’s not much to do here. He’s not catholic so we can’t get married in my church (they are VERY strict about this) so that leaves one option: Our favorite park.
What’s the issue? Apperanty it’s unfair for us to have his family fly in from all over the USA to our country town to have a pinic lunch (the same as our first date, mind you) by our favorite waterfall.
I was hurt, but again, compromise compromise compromise. We thought maybe the beach or yosemite places that are fun for us and cebelrating with my elderly family at home first
Now he says he feels like an ass for not wanting it here and his family should understand.
THEN he wants to rent a hall and have a more traditional reception so that his family feels like “the trip was worth it”
THEY”RE CELEBRATING OUR DAY WITH US ISN”T THAT WORTH IT?!?!?!!?!?!?
I don’t want that. I don’t want a hall. Besides. We don’t have a ton of halls here. I don’t think I can find one that was small enough and i DONT want to add to the guest list. What happened to compramise?? Rememeber i dont want a big wedding??
I just want him to pick something. I want to send out some Save-The-Date Cards soonish. I want to nail down a menu. I want to reserve things. i want to be able to let my family know if it’s in town or not so they know if they can be excited that they can attened
C’Mon man give me something!!!!!!!
Post # 5
I’m sorry it’s so hard to get things planned! I think tksjewelry made a really good suggestion though, figure out a few options and then present them so you can decide together what you like best.
Post # 6
We were sort of the same way. Both of us were wishy washy.
I suggest finding a venue that allows you to have your ceremony there and also caters. Why? Because this way you don’t have to make a ton of decisions. It was the best choice we ever made. We are getting married at a local catering comany…they take care of our menu, cake, tables, chairs, linens, etc. Fiance and I only have to do the big things: officiant, photog, dj, invitations, decorations. It reduced so much of our stress and the best part? We couldn’t be wishy washy because most of our stuff was already being done FOR us. It really got both of us turtle-wedding-planners moving.
Now that the big stuff is taken care of, I just present him with choices and he finalizes it. That way, he doesnt have to research and think, he just picks what he likes, and since I picked the choices, I’m garunteed to have him pick something I like!
Post # 7
When dealing with wedding things that my Fiance wants a say in I give him 2 or 3 choices (that I already like), and a due date on his choice. If I give him a world of choices or unlimited time, things wouldn’t get done. I remind him of the due date and if he doesn’t speak up, I make the decision and we move on. It works for us 🙂
Post # 8
Hello there, – 8-18-12 bride….
I am feeling this pain, My Fiance and I are having a hard time choosing the location. i always feel we are on the same page, and then in the blink of an eye, we are on different planets.
I had chosen a location and picked a day, i started researching the area, and getting ahead. And then today I get a call and text saying something about a golf course in a completely different town. I love my future husband so much but us being on different pages is killing me.
Worse than that I totally snapped at him tonight and now i feel like a witch. We both make good money and he is stressing about the cost associated. i get flustered that he cant see things like i see them, and its tearing me apart.
i feel like i need a hand to hold to help me through this and make it easy, and i dont know if there is help out there for me right now. i feel lost, and confussed.
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