(Closed) So frustrated-Can we PICK SOMETHING PLEASE

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
14492 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Oh, sorry you have had so much drama, but you are back here now.  With your FH, have you tried limiting the options?  With my Darling Husband, I would pick out my three favorites then sit down with him and talk over the options.  We had a deal, once it was written in our planning book, we were done with it and on to the next thing.  Maybe that might work for you.

Post # 5
515 posts
Busy bee

I’m sorry it’s so hard to get things planned! I think tksjewelry made a really good suggestion though, figure out a few options and then present them so you can decide together what you like best.

Post # 6
3798 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We were sort of the same way. Both of us were wishy washy.

I suggest finding a venue that allows you to have your ceremony there and also caters. Why? Because this way you don’t have to make a ton of decisions. It was the best choice we ever made. We are getting married at a local catering comany…they take care of our menu, cake, tables, chairs, linens, etc. Fiance and I only have to do the big things: officiant, photog, dj, invitations, decorations. It reduced so much of our stress and the best part? We couldn’t be wishy washy because most of our stuff was already being done FOR us. It really got both of us turtle-wedding-planners moving.

Now that the big stuff is taken care of, I just present him with choices and he finalizes it. That way, he doesnt have to research and think, he just picks what he likes, and since I picked the choices, I’m garunteed to have him pick something I like!

Post # 7
524 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

When dealing with wedding things that my Fiance wants a say in I give him 2 or 3 choices (that I already like), and a due date on his choice.  If I give him a world of choices or unlimited time, things wouldn’t get done.  I remind him of the due date and if he doesn’t speak up, I make the decision and we move on.  It works for us 🙂

Post # 8
7 posts
  • Wedding: May 2012

Hello there, – 8-18-12 bride….


I am feeling this pain, My Fiance and I are having a hard time choosing the location. i always feel we are on the same page, and then in the blink of an eye, we are on different planets.


I had chosen a location and picked a day, i started researching the area, and getting ahead. And then today I get a call and text saying something about a golf course in a completely different town. I love my future husband so much but us being on different pages is killing me.


Worse than that I totally snapped at him tonight and now i feel like a witch. We both make good money and he is stressing about the cost associated. i get flustered that he cant see things like i see them, and its tearing me apart.


i feel like i need a hand to hold to help me through this and make it easy, and i dont know if there is help out there for me right now. i feel lost, and confussed.


[email protected] – if anyone wants to vent to or with me

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