Post # 1
Okay bees I feel like crying, yelling even calling off the wedding. Here is why. My fiance and I were raised in pentecostal churches and we were attending one until recently. We are not strict christians since we decided to live together a yr ago and of course do things in our life as we please. Well when we announced our wedding date the first question from our pastor and some church members were is there going to be music. I said yes. They made faces and all and gave us a speech about the bible. Well I believe its my wedding and if i want to dance then i should be able to. My family told me if i dont have music then they will pull out their phones and dance to pandora jijijiji. So we decided to go with music and dancing. Now invites from the church have been scratched off the list and we are looking for someone else to marry us. Well this is just the beginning. My maid of honor well is my future sis-in-law. BIG MISTAKE. She has not asked to help in anything of the wedding neither has pinched in for anything. When i asked her to go with me to look at the reception hall she had an excuse. She decided that my future Mother-In-Law will make her dress and she didnt even ask what type i wanted. The best man is my Fiance brother. Well he told us he would pay for the cake now he is going through things and cant help either. I specifically made a list of invites and my Fiance is inviting family of his that lives out of the country and offering to pay for tickets to come. My wedding is in July and I havent even started hardly anything and i just want to call it off. I am disapointed cause the only person that has helped me in my wedding is my mom. I had to literally take my Fiance c.c. out his wallet and order stuff online cause I am the one breaking my pocket. My Fiance is making a big deal about spending money on dj, cater, etc…He wants to go as cheap as possible and i hate it. I need some advice here bees!!!
Post # 3
I totally understand what you’re going through, and i’m so sorry you’re having to deal with this! I too am in a similar situation, except it’s my Mother that’s been causing me stress. She just recently got married this past October for the 2nd time and is comparing every decision I make (budget wise) to the way she chose to do things for her wedding. She’s paying for almost everything is being soooo cheap about everything I want! My advice to you is to sit down and talk about the wedding budget with your fiance’. Get a monetary committment from him for the whole wedding budget so that you don’t have to go to him for every little purchase along the way. As for help from your SIL, leave her alone if she’s not willing to help and look to your other bridesmaids or even a close girlfriend who’s not in your wedding party. You still have time to make this July wedding happen, but you’re going to have to committ a lot of your free time to planning. Also, look into an affordable wedding planner to take some of the weight off you if it’s in your budget.
Post # 4
you and your Fiance need to sit down and make a list and then a budget for each item on the list. Besides your Fiance quit expecting people to help you, this is your wedding so get your butt in gear and plan it. Pick a couple of bridesmaid dresses and let SIL pick from those.
It is definately doable to make this work, but you really need to get things planned ASAP or vendors will be booked and you will be forced to push it back.
Post # 5
The thing I’ve learned in this process, after waiting around so long for help, was that this is MY wedding and if I want it to be a success (or to pull it off at all), it’s all on me. So, you have to decide right now if doing all of this on your own is worth it to you. If it’s not worth the stress, then you might want to cancel your wedding. I have chosen to stick it out and it’s hard, but I think it will be worth it in the end 🙂