(Closed) So frustrated with apartment living right now!!

posted 8 years ago in Home
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Ugh!  Sorry you have such a crappy situation right now.  I totally feel your pain, our landlord has become borderline abusive and we’ve been house hunting since last August so I am really loathe to go sign a lease somewhere else, since we have a rent controlled apartment now, and anything else will cost a couple hundred dollars a month more.

If you’re not ready to start hunting, and you’re already this miserable, you need to get out of there!

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

Sorry you have such a dismal situation and commute! I know how you feel – we live with two other people (my roommate from last year and her boyfriend) and it’s just getting to the point where it’s intolerable. They don’t clean up after themselves, aren’t financially responsible, are snooty to management, took 6 months to pay me back for the advance I paid on the apartment because they couldn’t, and still complain about all of our things (like the fact that she had to pay for the whole internet bill ($40) upfront because I didn’t have the money since they haven’t paid their share of the electric bill ($70) in two months. Suffice it to say, we’re looking for a studio/1 bedroom next year!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Yes, apartment living does indeed suck. The other day, our neighbors were having a Michael Jackson party or something. They were blasting his music so my Fiance and I could hear the songs clearly through our walls. And there were people constantly going in and out of their apartment and slamming the door while doing so. Super annoying. This went on from approximately 4pm until midnight. And the bass was unbelievable. Now, normally I would have no problem with people wanting to have a little fun on the weekends and whatnot but this was going on on a weeknight. Do people not work anymore???

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m sorry. I feel you. The ppl upstairs are loud and irritating. I swear they’re operating an inhome bowling alley or something.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

Dang, your Fiance really has it good… 5 minutes? I think it’s time to move. Ask him how he’d feel if he had to have an hour commute twice a day to come home to that… if he said that would be ok with him, I’d make him “commute” somewhere every weekend for an hour there and an hour back to show him that it ISNT fun.

Good luck!!!!

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m fed up with our place, too. We don’t have the barking dogs, but we have the noisy neighbors and horrible management. We always have to worry about if FI’s ca will be there in the morning (stemming from when a neighbor “borrowed it”). Thank God we only have about a month and half left here…then we’re off to what is (hopefully) a better apartment!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I know where you’re coming from.  We’re in the same place (Me: We should look at houses!   Him: We can stay here and save!)  At least Future Mother-In-Law has your back.

Have you pointed out to him how one-sided the commute is?  Maybe he has trouble putting it in perspective since he doesn’t have to do it every day.  If I were you I would invite him to join me for the train ride some time and see how he likes it!

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m so sorry you hate your apartment that much!  I hope that you can find a new place to live where you will both be happy.  It’s definetly not fair that you are so far away from work and he is basically a walk away.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

If I were you, I’d approach Fiance by telling him that here’s an opportunity to practice the marital art of compromise.  Start with a Socratic question like, “How much do you make in 30 hours  of work?” (the amount of time you spend a month in commuting) Even if he makes minimum wage (in SoCal that’s $8/hour), that’s $240 a month.  Then share with him the facts (my Fiance likes facts & LOVES discussions based on logic, not emotion): your extra 90 minutes of commute (which equates to 450 minutes per week, 1800 minutes per month), your lack of productivity/rest due to the neighbors & dogs, the loss of time & money due to the storage break-ins.  If you calculate the hours of productivity/rest lost & give it the same monetary amount as above & add it to the commuting $240, I’d bet you’d get a substantial amount.  Tell your Fiance that it’s worth X a month to YOU to MOVE.  Once your discomfort is quantified, and you’ve also made it clear that this amount isn’t the same amount SAVED by not moving, he should understand that your concerns with your current place are valid & a temporary change would be valuable…to you & to the improved quality of HIS life because you will be better to live with. 

I hope that works for you…a simiar process for me when I wanted to move out of the apartment complex prior to our present one (I had my cell phone ripped right off my jeans pocket…I was NOT a happy camper).  Our compromise was that we waited until our lease was up (another 4 months), but we started looking immediately & moved into our new place 3 days before our lease ended.  I LOVE our place now.

Good Luck!

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I’m sorry Valhalla. I live on the top floor of an apartment and most of the people are respectful, but Mr. Downstairs is LOUD. Fortunately, he keeps strange hours and usually only has his “dance parties” from around 4-7 p.m. so its not exactly during sleeping hours. Only occasionally will he blast his lovely music at night so I try to be thankful for that. The best part is, I can actually hear him singing at the top of his lungs through the floor. Some of his favorite songs/groups are: Black-Eyed Peas, John Mayer, Sexual Healing, and When a Man Loves a Woman. Even when I’m furious at him I have to stop because its kind of hilarious.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Awww, I’m so sorry.  I can relate.  I’m so sick of living in an old apartment that costs $1,400 a month just because I live in San Francisco.  There is nothing nice about the place, and this month I even withheld half of my rent check because my landlord refused to fix a leak in my kitchen roof.  I am so fed up, I cannot wait until my fiance and I finally move in together.  The apartment hunt is officially on.

I agree with the other posters – sit down and talk with your fiance about how stressed out your living situation is making you.  Hopefully he will understand, and I’m sure he doesn’t want to see you unhappy.  

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

At least it’s only 4 more months…is there anyway you can start looking for an apartment now?

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