(Closed) So frustrated with my bridesmaids

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 17
2116 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@SweetRose2011: that doesn’t sound mean at all, you can afford what you can afford.. can’t change that! I wish I had some sort of advice!Maybe when you order at the end of may, tell her you need half the money or whatever she has and don’t tell the rest of the girls, just have them pay themselves?

Post # 19
542 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@SweetRose2011: Is there any way you can have the conversation in person or on the phone? I think your email is fine, but I know it’s tricky with email since it doesn’t always come across right. I just wouldn’t want it to be misconstrued if it were me.

Post # 21
6392 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I feel your pain, too. It sucks.I’m going tomorrow to buy the dress for one of my BMs who recently spent  $5oo on a completely unnecessary purchase. 

Post # 22
1326 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I had a similar situation with a Bridesmaid or Best Man who said she couldn’t afford to pay for the dress (and she had to travel 3 hours to come into town, there wasn’t a salon near her who sold the designer)

I wouldn’t single ONE bm out, making her feel bad.  What I did was send an email/message to the entire group of bridesmaids/maid of honor giving the specifics of how much the dress will cost, how much they need to put down to order it, discount for paying in full, the deadline for ordering, and all the other necessary info.

I told them that they should let me know if they can’t pay for it, order it, etc, or if they decide they can’t be a Bridesmaid or Best Man anymore.  I think it went something like this:   Hey girls!  I’m just writing you an email about the dresses! 

If you’re still interested in being a bridesmaid, the dresses MUST be ordered before Jan 31.  That’s the deadline for them to arrive on time from the salon.  If you can’t meet this, I fully understand, and while I want all of you to be with me that day, it’s okay if you can’t.  I’ll still love you 100%!  etc.



Post # 24
3048 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

I get what you’re saying. A few of my BMs never respond to e-mails or facebook, or anything really. It’s completely annoying. It’s not that they can’t respond because they don’t check it, it’s that they don’t feel like responding. My wedding is in two months and two of my BMs haven’t even gotten their dress yet. I’m tired of bothering them about it, so if July comes and they don’t have dresses… they’ll have to sit down as regular guests. I don’t want to be mean, but I want all my BMs to have the same dress on at the altar and in my pictures. It’s not my fault they have not responded. Oh well.

Post # 25
3 posts
  • Wedding: July 2011

One of my BMs still doesn’t have her dress and my wedding is also in 2 months.  @kperry3 I agree with you, I decided I’m just going to forget about it, if she gets the dress in time then she gets it, if not then oh well.  I figure I have too much else to worry about.

Luckily the dresses are from JCrew so they are fairly easy to order and quick to ship. 

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