- Miss Emily Marie
- 8 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
I am catholic and Fiance is jewish. We really want a wedding with both a priest and a rabbi, but I am starting to feel like this is impossible. From the jewish side, a lot of rabbis, including the one my Fiance grew up knowing, won’t co-officiate, won’t marry us if I am another religion, and won’t even allow another religion to be recognized or symbolized in the ceremony, and won’t do a wedding in a church. I feel like I am being totally flexible by saying we can find a neutral location but it’s not good enough.
In addition, I called a priest who I had know from earlier in my life and was just speaking in general to the secretary of his parish and I mentioned that my Fiance was jewish and would they be open to an interfaith ceremony, she straight up told me “no” and practically hung up on me.
I am so sick of our relationship being judged before people even try to know us. I am familiar with the rules of matrimony of both religions, as I have been researching for MONTHS and no one will take us seriously.
I am also really sick of being told to just get married in one religion and have the other one “blessed” later. To that I say NO. Absolutely NO. That isn’t what we want. Our religions are a part of who we are and we want both represented on the most important day of our lives. One religion is not better than the other and one will not be an afterthought. I want one ceremony and to be done.
I am so frustrated, feeling undervalued, and just want to cry.