Post # 17
YOu need a proposal, but make sure you are getting proposed to by the right guy! He is dragging his feet with something he knows is important to you and should be important to him. You shouldn’t force him, if he doesn’t make a move. Then, you do. It may be time to re-evaluate this relationship. You don’t seem to have the same values.
Post # 18
Sigh… I asked if we were getting engaged or not and he couldn’t tell me. I finally told him the engaged by August or we are splitting the bills. I was expecting him to flip out, but all he did was blink and then agreed that sounded fair. Im slightly shocked, and I still don’t know the answer to my question, but at least that is out there. I just need to find a new hobby to distract myself from wedding things. Bleh.
Post # 19
I live with my bf but we very much keep separate finances. I’m not sure how you back out of that one now really though, but if you are going to do so, why wait until August? (Although, keep in mind, it sounds like if you split the bills, he won’t be able to save up for a ring.)
Where’d the extra tax return money go?
My bf says he wants to marry me if I ask him. Does yours? Is he unsure if he wants to get married? Or unsure if he wants to get married now?
Post # 20
I am waiting until August to give him some time to think if that’s what he wants. The tax money went to bills and a trip to Chicago and him just blowing it on weird little things. To your last question, I can never get a straight answer out of him. That is why I’m so frustrated.
Post # 21
If after 3.5 years he was still unsure about marrying you specifically and unwilling to discuss it, I’d be very concerned. You can wait until August, but honestly, I don’t think that’s going to make much of a difference, I think he’ll still be in the same place then, if nothing else has changed.