- 5 years ago
My brother is getting married next year at a nice resort about two hours away from here. It’s definitely a big budget wedding (mostly funded by her parents) and they have managed to cut down the guest list down to the 200 maximum that the venue allows. She knows a lot of people and they both come from big families so it was a struggle getting it down to 200. My mom called me last night to have a huge bitch fest about their wedding and I ended up getting off the phone feeling so relieved that it’s them dealing with her and not me!
Here was her biggest complaints – FYI I disagree with her all on points:
– No “party favours” (her words). They have decided to donate to charity instead. My mom is FURIOUS! She can’t believe that they would expect people to come to their wedding, bring a gift and not give them a parting gift. She’s so mad about this that she wants to buy favours for “her guests” and give them to them.
– Not being able to invite her friends to the wedding. My brother has said that if he hasn’t met them, they’re not invited. My mom has a lot of friends (and is pretty well known for placing her friends ahead of family in terms of importance) and thinks they should all be invited. She’s also mad because she wants to invite all of these friends to the engagement party but my brother and his fiance have said no because they don’t want to feel obligated to invite them all to the wedding
– The whole “Plus One” issue. My brother and his fiance have said that if someone has a partner (doesn’t matter if they’re married, engaged, living together or just dating), then they will be invited. If the guest is single, they do not get a plus one. 1) they don’t want random people at their wedding that they don’t know know, and 2) they don’t want to have to pay for random people to come to their wedding. Sounds fair to me! My mom is FREAKING OUT about this! My sister will be 22 at the time of their wedding and my mom is super upset that she won’t get to bring a date. She doesn’t have a boyfriend, she just wants to bring a random guy. She’s also a bridesmaid so she will be sitting at the head table anyway.
– The bride’s sister is the Maid/Matron of Honor and has dreadlocks. My mom can’t understand why the bride would allow that in her wedding.
Oh and they were all worried about me because I haven’t been asked to be a bridesmaid. I don’t want to be one!!! Like at all! Not even a tiny bit. I’m so glad she didn’t ask me! My mom told her that 30 is too old to be one (I don’t agree with that) so everyone thinks that’s why I haven’t been asked.
There was a few other things but I can’t remember them… all I could think was how this is like a flashback to when I was planning my first wedding 7 years ago. It was HELL! I ended up having a destination wedding and she still went control freak on that about the weirdest things (like storming off in the mall because she didn’t like my cake topper)
I’m anxiously awaiting the many phone calls I’m going to get over the next 17 months…