Post # 1
FH and I looked long and hard, and finally found an amazing 2 bedroom apartment in a nice area, with new kitchen & bathroom (with bathtub!) and a breathtaking view. We can see the sea from our south-facing balcony and on a clear day, we can see the mountain of Gibraltar and even the coast of Africa! The best part is that it’s well within our mini budget!
Now, in Spain most places that you rent come with furniture, which is handy when you’re trying to save up for a wedding 😀 On the other hand, the furniture is really tacky. So I’m trying to come up with anything I can to make this place a nice, sophisticated home instead of a “teens gone wild” theme.. but FH is not the best help. He loves anything asian, black laquered finishes, sparse decor.. with a bit of thunder and lighting painted on the wall (wtf?) and manga posters. I’m not trying to be racist here (I’m asian), but I hate the idea of cold black wood against red walls and floor pillows. I want a warm, light and cozy place. I know we have to compromise, but I genuinly have no idea how we could mix these two together. I was gonne give him free reign over the guest room, but my mom is staying over x-mas and I don’t want her to freak out in the middle of the night because he painted a mean samurai on the wall.
How did you compromise with your FH/DH when you moved in together?
Post # 3
LOL, there is no compromise for us. He just comes home and there is something new or something that I have changed. Sometimes it takes him days to notice it. I am lucky in the fact that Darling Husband has very bad taste in decorating and he knows it.
Post # 4
We are building a house and I ordered all the furniture myself. He’s more interested in adding art etc but let me do my thing for the furniture.
Post # 5
@maymorganite: You can still make black furniture look cozy…just highlight it with tans/creams/blues maybe?
Post # 6
dealing with this right now in fact! I have always been the one to decorate, but that has been basically rearranging what we have been gifted over the years as people move or change their own furniture. I’ve made the mishmash look great, but it has never been FI’s style. We are trying to preserve what we can, and redo on a budget–but he likes the blacks, silvers, modern look that can be quite expensive and is often an issue of architecture rather than decor.
My suggestion? Buy three home design magazines and have him rip out what he likes, circle it, and explain why. You can go through it together, and he can even make a pile of “hate it.” That way you can see what he does and does not like, and just pick the elenents you can both agree on. We did this the other day, and while I am still kinda stressed about trying to make it work–there is def room for compromise. I would not believe that if i didnt have the pictures i can now return to.
Post # 7
@tksjewelry: Hahaha, that’s awesome! At least he knows his strengths and weaknesses!
@Elizward21: That’s nice! I’d love to pick out all the furniture myself 🙂
@MsNarwhal: Yeah, definetely gonna try to mix it up somehow! It’s just that the initial conversation between FH and me left me kind of confused..
@justelope: That’s a great suggestion! I think maybe he just has to see how I plan to do things, or vice versa.
Post # 8
We are working on this right now! As far as the furniture that comes with the place, if you really hate it, try getting covers for the couches. We have this really comfortable (but really hideous) orange print couch that we’re going to cover in black to match the rest of our decor!
In terms of incorporating both of your styles, that’s a harder one. My Fiance is in the military and has that “oo-rah” mentality. He also likes black, white, and red, with lots of straight lines and a more modern/asian look. I like more ornate decorations with lighter blues, greens, and purples.
Our living room is going to be black and white, with light blue accents. I get my blue and my zebra print pillows, but all of the furniture has very clean lines and high contrast, which he likes a lot. I plan to frame colorful pictures of nature and our friends/families in black frames, so it makes it homey while incorporating both of our styles.
Ps… your apartment sounds amazing! The only view I have from mine is an open field…