(Closed) So hard not to get impatient about RSVPs!

posted 6 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
311 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Not yet as not sending our trill September. But I already know I’m going to be a nightmare at checking the mail!! 

Post # 4
615 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@clumsylawyer:  Haha, get ready to play the waiting game.

It’s kind of ridiculous how many people will wait until the last minute to fill out the response card (or respond at all). Luckily I had to bother very few guests on my own end, but between my husband’s massive family and the few co-workers we invited, there were a few last minute headaches.

I’m just like, the thing is stamped, has the return address printed on it, and is ready to be dropped in the mail — how can I make this any freaking easier for you???!

Post # 5
3176 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I was the same way which is why I now make a habit to try and send back RSVP’s the next day!

Post # 6
9952 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Truly the whole RSVP Reply thing is the most stressful (and a pain in the butt when people dick around or mess stuff up… cause drama / trauma)

The good news is it will over soon.  Smooth sailing for the most part after that… also means your Wedding is right round the corner.  Yippee !!

So, focus on the positive stuff… it will help you get thru this stage.


Post # 7
11747 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think you sent out invites way early to be getting responses. Alot of people probably don’t ye tknow if they’re free or not.  You’ll get most of them towards the end of May/early June.

As for your concerns about your friends just showing up – they won’t, since if you don’t receive RSVPs for everyone, you need to call them to find out if they will be coming or not.

We noticed we got a lot of our yeses at the beginnings and most of the no’s came towards the end from people who waited to respond.

Post # 8
166 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

It is driving me crazy.  Our RSVP deadline is April 20th and we still have 50+ people unaccounted for.  We have invited 105 people.  Every day I can’t wait to check the mail… but for the last week, the box has been empty.  My Fiance has already taken it upon himself to make calls to his family so that we can at least make reservations for the Rehersal Dinner.  My family has all responded (except for my uncle and his son).  But it is my friends… They just don’t seem to realize how important that little card that came with an addressed and stamped envelope really is. 


This is deffinatly the most stressful part of wedding planning so far!

Post # 10
1497 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I just mailed half of the invitations today, and I’m already wondering when I’ll start getting the RSVPs back!

Post # 11
2351 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

u’d think ppl would be courteous enough to just drop it in the mail the next day. Sometimes theyve had a year’s notice already! I think ppl get them in the mail and then think ‘I know theyre waiting to hear but I don’t have to fill that out today or mail it if I dont want to.’ Like they dont want to have to conform to anything they weren’t planning to do themselves. Even when the guests r a married couple, and ud think the woman would understand since she was a bride at one time too, even then there seems to be no urgency on the part of the guest. I know I will struggle with this aspect the most. 

Post # 12
1748 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

You sent them out really early, that may be why people haven’t responded. Mine are due tomorrow and I have a handful of people who I know are no’s that haven’t responded, many that are yes’s that haven’t- but what I really care about are the people who I have absolutely no clue whether or not they plan to come and have yet to hear from, fortunately that’s only a small #.

Post # 13
438 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think you sent them out a little early…I agree with PP that people maybe not know their plans for July yet and might not be thinking that far ahead. Did you mail out STDs? I am not sending mine out til May 1st


Post # 14
11233 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Wow, that is way early. We’re sending ours out early June with a late July RSVP date for our August wedding.

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